If you’re a fan of weddings, you know dancing is a pretty important part of the wedding. I’m not overlooking the father-daughter dance or the couples’ first dance, but how guests react to and on the dance floor is a major key to how well your wedding is graded. You’ll have a lit* Nigerian wedding party if your DJ / Band was awesome and the party rocked.
I hadn’t been to a Nigerian wedding in two years (last one attended was mine in 2014!). So when I attended one recently in Lagos, I had such a fab time, and noticed the 7 kinds of dancers you’re likely to come across:
You know those people who constantly remain on their seats, yet don’t fail to shake their head and upper body? Yep! They’re the seat dancers. It’s funny because when they eventually get up to dance, they often don’t do such a great job.
All through the day, they usually dance with just one person – their spouse or partner! It’s either because they are marking territory or they don’t feel like such great dancers and know that this one person won’t mock their dancing skills or lack thereof!
They know all the songs, the lyrics and the dance steps! You don’t catch them taking a break on their seat because they don’t know what song is currently playing. They also know the DJ and give hints on what songs should be played. The Party Shakers are the last people to leave the last dance floor – grudgingly!
Who says you can’t get a job or meet potential boo via the dance floor? The networker doesn’t take any chances. A bit of dancing, more of networking – ensuring that business cards
These ones are not so interested in showing off their dancing skills, but more interested in showing off their wad of cash. They may be on the dance floor for just a few seconds, but you’re very likely to remember them (and their crisp currency notes) long after the party is over.
These are a new crop of dancers, thanks most especially to SnapChat! They want to have a good time, but more importantly, their followers need to know they had a lit weekend. So they go around the dance floor, with a mobile phone in hand,
For a second, they almost make us think we’re in a night club, and we wonder if we should send the kids away. Essential they’re the
Not much to say about Jo. Just another regular on the dance floor and most likely won’t be remembered. They dance to the few songs they like and take a few photos (ensuring there’s at least a decent one for Facebook and Instagram).
Have I missed out any group? Which or these are you? What do you generally prefer at weddings – a band or a DJ or both?
Love,
Kachee… Xx
pS: I always found it funny when single girls had to come out to catch the bouquet. Thanks to my girls in the photo above, for being enthusiastic about it!
Read too: 6 Questions on our Nigerian Inter-Ethnic Marriage and 6 Love Lessons Learned from my Wedding Ring
Nedu O
July 15, 2016 at 18:17Phew! Scrolled down quickly to see if you had a picture of me in this post. That was close!
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 15, 2016 at 18:42I almost did! 😂😂😂. You’re lucky!
Nengi
July 15, 2016 at 19:11Definitely seat mover as I suck at dancing ! In fact I would have danced on my seat if possible at my own wedding! It was no secret that T out-danced me! Even my grandma thought so!
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 19, 2016 at 15:58Girl! I dreaded dancing our wedding because I kind of suck! But surprisingly I didn’t do too bad. or maybe everyone just said that so I wouldn’t feel too bad, because the pictures of me dancing def looked awkward!
Rasheeda Nae
July 15, 2016 at 23:34Hahahaha! This was so interesting to read. I’m probably the party shaker lol. I’m always going over to the dj and telling him to play my song so I can do small small shoki.Love,RASHEEDA |THE D’JOURNAE BLOG MAGAZINEXOXO
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 19, 2016 at 15:59Hahahahahaha @ shoki! Go Party Shaker. What will a party be without you?!
Paula Olaitan Benedict
July 16, 2016 at 13:24I am sooo a networker and the regular jo …. very interesting read.
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 08:44Thanks love! Loool @ Networker. Interesting!
Precious
July 17, 2016 at 05:50Hahahaha I am definitely a seat mover. The only difference is I never get to stand up. HaThe stand-up dancing is done in my living room.PreciousCore.com
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 08:43Lol.! I feel like I can dance in my living room and in front of my mirror. Once I step out, it’s seat mover all the way!
Nedoux
July 18, 2016 at 10:20Lol @ “stand-up dancing”. I bet you are a shower singer too. 🙂
Rshanphonsi
July 17, 2016 at 06:16Hahahahaha I am definetly the seat movers until a few drinks and I jump straight to the dirty dancer lol and everything else in between until i sober up. hahaGreat article.www.rshanphonsi.com
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 08:43Lool. I’m right with you on the seat mover. But I’m always way to shy to get anywhere close to dirty dancer!
Tunrie
July 18, 2016 at 08:04Haha! Which one are you though?
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 08:42Hahaaha. Seat Mover, Spouse Clinger, Regular Jo!
Nedoux
July 18, 2016 at 10:18Hi Kachee,How’ve you been?Hilarious and very true, you captured some of the nuances at wedding parties. I’m a part-time Party Shaker. LolThe last wedding that I attended had a karaoke competition at the reception and I did a croaky rendition of Alicia Keys “No one”. Ah, it should have been embarrassing by all standards but I had so much fun mehn! 🙂
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 14:29I’m fine Nedu! Hahahaha@ part time. I’m sure your rendition was far from croaky. But who cares for perfection anyway? Enjoying the moment is all that matters!
Nedoux
July 18, 2016 at 10:22Hello namesake.Hmmm… Now I’m curious about that picture. 🙂
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 14:28Hahahaha. He was just being a complete party shaker at our wedding. Obviously such an over joyed best man, that one would have mistook him for the groom!
Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde
July 18, 2016 at 14:33Your descriptions are so accurate!! 😂😂 when I get to a party I like to first be a seat mover so I can observe and know who and what I will be contending with because I’m def switching to the party shaker in no time!! I’m that typical ‘life of the party’ with all the dance moves. If the DJ resorts to killing the vibe after a while, I switch to networking. If not, snapchat needs to get just a little (I mean like 30 snaps LMBO) view of my turnup!! I’m such a characterwww.toyinwithfashion.com
Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde
July 18, 2016 at 14:35Ohh and I think band first.. *Cause I’m assuming it will be a Yoruba pasuma kind of band,or well that’s what I want* to ginger us then DJ can take over larra! 😂
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 14:46Loool! Your comment cracked me up! You Yoruba people don’t joke with a band it appears! It’s hilarious, Tee totally said there had to be a band at our wedding. Me I just couldn’t be bothered!
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 18, 2016 at 14:47Lmao @ contending!! Is there a prize for best dancer? 30 snaps?? Loool. You are def a character! Xx
Sogie
July 19, 2016 at 08:32Omg so accurate hahaha. Well I’m mainly part of the seat moving club and if it enters my head the party shaker. Snapchat is so lit so i might join the snapchatter club next wedding I attend. I’ve not attended a wedding all year, someone I know should come and marry oh. Girl I’ve always envied the cash machine club lol. Itsdivadiaries.com
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 19, 2016 at 15:51I hear snap chat is lit, but I’m still a stranger to it. The year is till young. I’m sure you’ll attend one soon. I didn’t attend any for two years! Lol
Arrey Echi
July 19, 2016 at 13:37Very accurate. I am on the seat movers until that song I love comes up and I sure can hold my own :)Bouquet is just for fun but I guess many still believe their circumstances will change if the catch the bouquet.Don’t want to cross a snapchatter’s part on the dance floor.
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 19, 2016 at 15:56Haha. Part time seat mover! Lol! Bouquet is definitely for fun!
Yummy Mum Life
July 19, 2016 at 19:29Hehe!! I am 100% a mix of one and two..I move the seats no be small and my husband likes to form dancer so I just move in his shadow sometimes..www.cheecheelive.com
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 22, 2016 at 10:27LOOL @ Form dancer. My Hubs used to form dancer as well too, but now I think he’s retiring! Lool!
Berry Dakara
July 20, 2016 at 13:19I’m definitely a cross between the 1, 3, 6 and 7.The number 2’s though! I was at this wedding one time, being #3 and this guy (who might have been on the drunk side) came to our table and was trying to dance with me. I had been dancing with all the guys at the table too, so I didn’t think anything of it. Next thing, Mr Man’s wife came and started shouting at him, asking what he thinks he’s doing! I’m like, I hope she knows my own husband is here too and I’m dancing with everyone. Gawsh, gimme a break!Berry Dakara Blog
AB x MeeMee
July 22, 2016 at 10:17LOOOL
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 22, 2016 at 13:03So you don’t cling to Cakes at all eh! But seriously though, what was all that drama about? People can be ridiculously extra! Gawshhhhh.
CherishExpress
August 16, 2016 at 21:55Lol. Times are hard. Price of fuel is up and so is the price of getting a husband. I apologise on her behalf.
AB x MeeMee
July 22, 2016 at 10:21I haven’t really been to a wedding since 2007. Not a big fan, I think they are stressful. Also, everyone I know/ care about is still in school or dating. I’d probably be a Seat Mover and IF the DJ is great or I’m in a really good mood,my inner Party Shaker might make an appearance LOL
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 22, 2016 at 10:26I was going to ask how about your friends! Lol. But I guess if they are still in school or dating that’s fine. Honestly, I agree with you the stressful bit. I’m not sure how people attend weddings every weekend. Phew! A good DJ is definitely necessary to bring out the party shaker!
Esther Imbula
July 25, 2016 at 17:52Like the person below me said, I’m also a seat mover – but once those drinks start kicking in. Man I’ll dance till dawn.
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 27, 2016 at 17:45Team Seat Movers Unite. Even after a few drinks sha, I’m still a seat mover or spouse clinger. I’m so shy of dancing!
Bubu Green
July 26, 2016 at 14:27Hahaha. Your description’s spot on. Shout out to the ‘seat movers’! We rock……..the chair, literally. LOL. Love your blog. My first time here. http://www.bubusboulevard.com
Muna Muoneke
July 27, 2016 at 17:19Hahaha pls allow us singles to catch the bouquet, I’ve actually only gone out to catch it twice haha and I’ll always make sure i’ll stand far behind! As for dancing I’m one of the seat movers haha, such a horrible dancer but a few drinks will get me up my seat! lolIt’s Munastic, Styling All White and My Fro
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 27, 2016 at 17:45Please catch oh Muna! Loool. How are there so many seat movers, until a few drinks. Everyone be forming shy.
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
July 27, 2016 at 17:47We rock… the chair! Lmfao. That’s hilarious. Welcome!!! Thank you SO much Bubu!! Have a drink on me tonight. Lol!
CherishExpress
August 16, 2016 at 21:13Lol at the N60,000 agbada and N10,000 facebeat. Who wan carry last?Cherishexpress
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
August 16, 2016 at 21:45Lol! When you make an investment you want it to yield returns! They ain’t joking. Thanks for your comment! Xx
CherishExpress
August 16, 2016 at 21:52Yes dear. I think the worst part is even when after dancing like it’s your celebration, nothing reach you. No food, drink or present. I once went to such occasion and truth be told, it wasn’t funny.
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
August 19, 2016 at 08:31I always try to eat before going oh. So, I know I’m just going to have a good time and not be disappointed for food and drinks. And after I’ve planned a wedding, I know sometimes things don’t go according to plan. So I’m more understanding. Lol!
Tamie
August 19, 2016 at 07:50#SeatMoversClubGal lol! I really don’t like the bouquet throwing thingy. Haven’t gone out to stand for it and would not throw mine. Might just do what what what did. She shared the stems and petals of her bouquet out to the ladies who cared.
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
August 19, 2016 at 08:32Yeah. Lots of people share the flowers to friends.Sometimes it’s just good lighthearted fun. Right behind you on #TeamSeatMovers!
Tamuno Tonye
August 23, 2016 at 20:31Love this post! Now that I’ve finally figured out how to leave a comment, I thought I should let you know. 💟
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
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Enkay Ede
August 28, 2016 at 17:02I am a seat mover,a regular jo and a snapchatter in one.lolI love this postStylebyenkay.blogspot.com
Kachee || KacheeTee.com
September 2, 2016 at 15:48Thnk you Enkay! Many people are at least two in one. Lol!
Omowumi Oguntuase
September 16, 2016 at 07:42Lmao I am definitely in the party shaker group, I love to have a good time and when there is music why would I be dulling? I prefer DJ for turn up time, the bands usually play songs I know too so I don’t mind having a mix of both. Yeahhh I never stand up for that bouquet catching part, nope!https://wumituase.wordpress…