During our last holiday to Nigeria and while helping me unpack (or maybe just looking through my suitcase wondering where all the “goodies” were ) my sister noticed that the Mr and I had exactly the same toothbrush. “How Sweet,  she said. Even though she probably rolled her eyes in her mind. “Yeah, that was the only kind they had in the store and we couldn’t be bothered. So sometimes I’m pretty sure we use the same one” I replied.

Sharing the same toothbrush with your spouse or partner

If she didn’t roll her eyes before, I’m pretty sure she did at this point! Like why share toothbrush? “Well sorry, I can’t share toothbrush” with anyone.  And of course in my overly analytical fashion, I started thinking of all the things some married people say they can’t share. Quick run through shall we? 

Bathroom Essentials: Toothbrush, Towels, Sponge:

Maybe I’m just a little bit too carefree. But I’m all for sharing all of these. Not intentionally. Of course, we’re not trying to save a few pennies by not buying two toothbrushes instead of one. But if for some reason it happens then go for it. A typical example will be going on holiday and forgetting mine. Hey what are husbands for? Some people will probably rather just use a mouthwash or not even brush at all. I don’t think the argument that it goes in the mouth is valid as well – not if you happen to be kissing such spouse. And not if you use cutlery in restaurants that you don’t even know whose mouth its been in. If there are health reasons why you shouldn’t share (trying so hard to think of one now) then that’s understandable. Towels however, why not? Especially when you go to hotels and use the towels a million people have probably used. 

Bedroom in its Entirety:

Last weekend, while visiting friends, I’m not sure how we ended up talking about mattresses. While a friend’s husband likes really hard mattresses, she likes really soft ones. So although she’s been enduring the hardness for a while, they’re considering getting one of those half and half mattresses which have one side as half and the other side as soft. Oh dear! Thank God, there’s a solution to this now as this is one reason couples refuse to share a bed. Other than this some people just prefer to sleep in separate beds – perhaps because one who snores (un)fortunately married one who can’t tolerate a sonre. I’m personally an advocate of sleeping in the same bed. I think it enhances some form of bonding and truly speaking, many unnecessary arguments are settled in the middle of the night. If you slept on the couch, you really just wake up determined to continue being angry! Nevertheless, I know many ladies like to have space (i.e a walk in closet and a fancy dressing table). So I actually quite like the idea of having a separate room for that – just without a bed. So that’s what I hope to do. What do you think? 

Passwords – to Phones, Emails, Social Media and Bank accounts:

This one sort of baffles me. Like we sleep in the same bed and I have taken your surname and yet I won’t have the 4 digit password to your phone? Asides the obvious need for openness and trust, there could be a genuine emergency that would require you to need these details. They’ve been times when I had access stuff from the husband’s email and he’s unavailable so I can’t ask him to send it. I just happily log in. More importantly, for bank accounts even if you’re not a signatory to the account ( I’m team joint and separate accounts) I think it’s important to at least know the online banking details – and this doesn’t mean you should misuse it. A good marriage should really be an open book, and the earlier our relationships are built on such openness, the better. 

Food

This one ladies love to share. Sort of.  Not our food, but our man’s food. I mean we always love to eat out of our man’s plate – even if we ordered the exact same thing! And when we happen to have different dishes, the man’s plate always look nicer, so we pinch out of it! I’m not sure why men still make a big deal of us eating out their plates. Get over it already! 

What do you guys think? What are you willing to share and what are you not? You know I appreciate your comments (and we learn from them) so be lavish – the longer, the better! 

Love,

Kachee… xx

Update: So, I did a bit of research and I guess I’m the weird one. Apparently, sharing of toothbrushes is not recommended and is probably worse than kissing and sharing cutlery. Especially because sometimes we bleed while brushing and residue easily remains on the toothbrush and can be transferred – which can be really bad if someone has Hepatitis. So yeah, you don’t have to share that!


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  1. Abby

    August 12, 2016 at 20:57

    loool! No way I’m sharing toothbrush.nope nope! even towels! my skin gets really sensitive so I rarely rarely ever use hotel towelsOn this password of a thing. there’s always the “you’ll find what you’re looking for” angle but left to me I see no reason at all why your spouse shouldnt have all that detail. Like why not?anddddd their plate just always looks nicer and more yummy! (or maybe we’re just foodies) Loool!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 17:00

      The password thing eh. I know people who argue that ‘you’ll find what you’re looking for’. What am I looking for soo much? Lol. It’s just openness really and necessity really! Their plates are always always the best. Ok ok, maybe we really are foodies! Thanks Abby!

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  2. 'Dara

    August 12, 2016 at 21:12

    I’m not married and won’t be anytime soon (that’s a long term goal) but I agree to sharing passwords, account details, bedrooms, maybe towels and sponges (just once in a while is fine). But not toothbrushes. No! It just doesn’t sound very right. Maybe I will change my mind when I get married.

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  3. Chidinma

    August 12, 2016 at 22:12

    Finallyyyy. I get to comment. Okay, so the old me would have ‘ewwwed’ to the suggestions above but I just realized that I’ve shared bathing sponge before but I later owned it. I can also share towels, passwords, food ( of course), but not toothbrush biko. The lof never reach that point *in Jenifa’s voice

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 12, 2016 at 22:16

      Yay! Finallyyyyy!! Im not saying we should have one toothbrush now. Loool. Just that it’s not an abomination if we mistakenly use the other persons own. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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  4. Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo

    August 13, 2016 at 02:51

    HahahahahahahahhaaKachi oooo.Ok that toothbrush thing i still no gree.But MAYBE in an emmergency, MAYBE!!!But hygiene or OCD aside (i know, kissing and all but still…lol) hubs uses d HARDEST toothbrush in d world… im always asking uncle to STOP. I’ve even dug up research and evidence on why he shouldn’t but MBA lol…As for the rest, of course.That mattress thing tho. Didn’t know there was a half nd half… awesomeAnd then finally, i have been known to SLEEP in the same bed, under d same duvet and wake up MADDER than i slept. Hahahaha. In the past sha… loooooolTOTALLY loved thisMuahEziaha.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 16:58

      Loooool @ Maybe. Is it that WISDOM toothbrush? That’s the hardest toothbrush ever!! My mum uses such a hard one as well. She loves it! Loool @ wake up madder! Ofcourse that’s possible. Chances are lower sha!Thanks Babe!! Muah!

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  5. favour moyse

    August 13, 2016 at 07:35

    Lolz… I love this post.. You spoke my mind THE PERKS OF BEEN A PREACHERS WIFE Β 

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 16:57

      Thanks Favour! I take it you’re willing to share toothbrush. Lool

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  6. Bababi

    August 13, 2016 at 08:49

    Hehehehe….I’m willing to share, especially because I’m more social on social media…hahahaha #introvertalert#Anyhu, let me start by saying- in my relationship I’ve always been the prim and proper “I can’t share so so and so”…and my boyfriend now husband has always been the “what do you mean? You must share BY FORCE”. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ . That’s part of what glues us together, he annoyingly makes me laugh over things that would normally upset me.So I would never dream of sharing my tooth brush just because, I mean, you have yours so why use mine? But he would always use mine just to annoy me then when I’m tired of being annoyed I’ll laugh it off.I would never share a towel, not because of cleanliness but cos I prefer to use a very dry towel after my bath. But I don’t always get to have my bath first considering there’s no rota and I prefer to see less clothing in the laundry basket so I have settled with sharing.As for bed what’s my own? Sleep is the end point.Food. In my case, I’m not the woman to always want to eat from my man’s plate. This is because I am very adventurous with food. If we’re dinning out, I would never go for the regular foods. He on the other hand believes if he eats strange food his tummy will rumble to no end. So food on his plate is always boring to me. So we enjoy our separate dishes separately. πŸ˜†Password to phones/emails/bank accounts/laptops. Anyone who knows me very well knows I don’t make a big deal out of this. He tells me his passwords all the time and I forget all the time and I always have to ask for it again only when I need it. And he knows mine too, only he’s not as forgetful as I am.Keep writing Kachee…how else will I keep opening up? I would never talk if it were face to face πŸ™ˆ

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 08:59

      Munwa! I actually think I’m a bit more social on social media as well. Lol.You will share BY Force! I can just imagine him saying that. See eh on that food matter, even if he orders the most boring food, I will still want to taste. I think it’s just a bad habit. Loool!Def no need to make a big deal about passwords. The opposite is the case for us. I remember all of my husband’s passwords and he never remembers mine., He just can’t be bothered. LooolThank you so much for commenting. I’ll try to keep writing!

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      • Bukola

        August 26, 2016 at 11:58

        so meee hahaha

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    • Bukola

      August 26, 2016 at 11:58

      Password to phones/emails/bank accounts/laptops. Anyone who knows me very well knows I don’t make a big deal out of this. He tells me his passwords all the time and I forget all the time and I always have to ask for it again only when I need it. And he knows mine too, only he’s not as forgetful as I am. this is so me… he done taya sef.. that he will just shake his head abd gimme that *whew* look …hahaha ….

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  7. demiolowo

    August 13, 2016 at 11:26

    No way i’m sharing my toothbrush or towel!hehe…my fiance calls me a germophobe. Even soap I don’t like to share…we’ll see how that goes when we get married!pheeeww

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 16:56

      Germohobe. Hahahaha. I’ll ask you when you get married! Shower gels can be an alternative to soap.

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  8. Grace.

    August 13, 2016 at 13:11

    Loool. I love this post. I rem one time there was an issue with the toothbrush cos I was a bit skeptical n boo said eh so no more kissing…looolEpiphany29.comScars To Your Beautiful

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 16:55

      Apparently, according to health professionals, kissing is not the same and sharing is even worse! Lol. Had to include a quick update to the post. Me I will still share sha.

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  9. glowingscenes

    August 13, 2016 at 20:36

    Hello Kachee, lovely post as always! Thing is, in the medical line, we health professionals try to advise couples against using the same toothbrush because of ‘infection scenarios’ If one is going to infect the other, the toothbrush is a good way to transfer any kind of infection and this is because when we brush, one tends to bleed. Not bad bleeding but an individual could brush too hard and spew little blood. Gums perhaps. It could be any type of infection. As long as blood is involved, it’s not advisable for safety, healthy and hygienic reasons. Kissing is different and cutleries are different from toothbrushes (especially with the way toothbrushes are structured) If you look closely, sediments can be found even after rinsing your toothbrush.Okay let me not scare you anymore. lol. But for hygienic purposes, it’s not advisable.Lovely post once again.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 13, 2016 at 20:39

      Thank you! I actually agree with you. I went back to do some research and found that it’s not really advisable especially where blood is involved. So I’m going to update the post with that information. Lol! Thanks so much, I appreciate! ❀️

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    • Nedoux

      August 15, 2016 at 21:45

      Hi Itunu,Hmmmm, so this is what your professional voice sounds like? I absolutely love it. LolI learned a lot from your informative comment, thank you so much for sharing. πŸ™‚

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      • glowingscenes

        August 16, 2016 at 09:51

        πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„Nedoux o. Thanks love😘 @Kachee, you’re welcome😬😊

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  10. Precious

    August 14, 2016 at 04:46

    Hahaha Kachee, you have come again oo. With the abundance of toothbrushes in the world, why would we share one? Plus what glowingscenes has said has just gave me health-inclined reasons to avoid that. Interesting post as always!PreciousCore.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 16:54

      No now Precious. Loool. I didn’t say we should share one. I just said if someone forgot theirs on a holiday or something. Lol. I’ve updated the post to include what @glowingscenes:disqus said. I guess there are valid reasons not to share.

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  11. Omolara Daniel

    August 15, 2016 at 07:58

    i share practically everything with hubby including tooth brush but with what i know now “running to the store to get new brushes”. the toothbrush sharing is as a result of hubby frequent travels ( he forgets to bring his brush) and eventually we got used to sharing

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 15, 2016 at 08:24

      Me too! I’m just going to update the post to say toothbrush sharing is apparently not advisable. Lool. Thanks for dropping a comment!!

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  12. 1 + The One

    August 15, 2016 at 16:27

    As usual, loved reading this post.I am with you on this one, I am team ‘share ALL’… Even at the risk of Hepatitis *covers face*.. It’s in sickness and in health right? We share all together LOL iKid (partially)..I think it’s important to see yourselves as one as much as possible. I believe marriage involves a healthy dose of tolerance so be ready to close your eyes (and irritation) to many things!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 09:57

      Thanks love for being on my team Share All. I was starting to look like the weird one around here. Lol. One definitely definitely needs a good does of tolerance and must be able to turn a blind eye to many things.

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  13. Memkoh

    August 15, 2016 at 16:50

    I like your reason for wanting to share passwords and bank details. Coincidentally, I’m also team separate and joint bank accounts. It is important to be both an individual and a great team player in a marriage, whatever that means for you.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 08:32

      It’s def important to be both an individual and a team player! Thanks Hun! Xx

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  14. Kachee || KacheeTee.com

    August 15, 2016 at 17:01

    Looool @ long term goal. No pressure Dara!Honestly I don’t think you should like have one toothbrush for both of you. But if the need arises like someone forgets theirs, then it’s not an abomination. Lol

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  15. Mitchell Awah

    August 15, 2016 at 23:58

    Toothbrush, towel, sponge biko no lol. Bedroom, of kes. Haven’t I been doing that since I was born? Lol. Password, no wahala. Nothing to hide bio lol. Food, errrr. There sha better be enough for two of us sha lol

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 08:32

      Lol. All you ‘posh’ people that can’t share toothbrush. Issokay. As for food, I don’t like sharing mine oh, I just like eating from his. Lool

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  16. Tunrie

    August 16, 2016 at 09:41

    Haha. Taking down notes. πŸ˜€

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 09:57

      Hahahahaha!

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  17. Tega Enai

    August 16, 2016 at 12:56

    I was just gonna say tooth brush is internal… all those germ arrggghh trying so hard not to imagine it. Cutlery and towels are washed sometimes sterilised. If I had to share his brush I’d use hot water and salt to sterilise first. I could share password, emails, the rest and of course food. No doubts we ladies derive joy from eating fro his food.www.tegaenai.comI can’t stand cold… can you? xoxo.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 22:15

      Hahahhaha! Apparently you’re right that toothbrush is worse than towel and cutlery. I just think your spouse is like your person, but yeah – that’s prob too extra. I’m not sure I’ll ever stop eating from his food! Lol

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  18. Lohla's Melange

    August 16, 2016 at 18:10

    I always make sure there are no excuses why you have to use my brush, I always have like 5 extras so… As for the other things, yup we share everything even sponge sef. Passwords, yep yep totally. He even helps me change my profile pic on FB whenever he feels the one there has been there too long, me I couldn’t be bothered cos I haven’t posted in FB for ages. So yeah if you’re married, sharing is not bad at all its a step towards becoming one like you’re meant to.How are ya mami?

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 18:15

      I’m good! Missed your comments! Loool @ changing your profile picture for you. You’re right, marriage is about becoming one. Hope you’re well!! 😘😘

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  19. DamiLoves

    August 16, 2016 at 21:54

    Kachi!! I’m for joint bank accounts and sharing passwords ( Yes Oh) But the same toothbrush? Nah! Can’t go there, Gum disease just frightens me. It feels the same as sharing a piece of dental floss. Yes, I will share food(haha), and I need a walk in closet in my life!Do not swallow it

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 16, 2016 at 22:13

      πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. I can actually share the same floss! Ok Ok, I’m going a bit too far. I agree with you that toothbrushes may be a bit too personal. Plus I never meant it for everyday sharing, just emergencies. Girl, a walk in closet is a NEED! Thanks for sharing with us! 😘

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  20. Okoro Yvonne

    August 17, 2016 at 13:54

    Hehehehe…I can share anything o except toothbrushes. I’ll also share food too.I should know his password at any point in time..www.yvonnyblog.wordpress.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 17, 2016 at 16:09

      Lool! Well. you’re not alone. Many people think sharing toothbrush is a bit too extreme. Thanks for your comment!

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  21. Ify Halim

    August 17, 2016 at 16:55

    LOL! Sharing toothbrushes is a no-no for me. Even towels. I don’t think I’d be open to sharing either with my husband too.What about bank accounts? πŸ™‚ Can you/Do you share one with your husband? Not sure I would yet, but let’s see lolwww.ifyhalim.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 17, 2016 at 22:45

      Apparently it’s a no no for lots of people too. Oh I talked about bank accounts as well. We have a joint one but we both have individual ones as well.

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  22. Ify Halim

    August 18, 2016 at 16:47

    Lol yeah.Oh snap, I jumped that point while reading lol. Sounds like a good idea.

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  23. Yummy Mum Life

    August 20, 2016 at 00:09

    I can’t even for the life of me use my husband’s toothbrush,he gags when he is brushing and I’ve asked him to stop.Nigerian style of brushing maybe?!For rooms i’m all for sleeping together on the same bed.Many quarrels linger when a couple is in separate rooms so I could have my room for my fancy stuff but no bed jst like you said.For passwords if I don’t know it and you refuse to tell me then we have a big big gigantic problem.www.cheecheelive.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 21, 2016 at 17:56

      LMAO! i know what you mean by gagging. Sometimes I brush a little too hard as well. Loool. I agree with you Chee, quarrels definitely linger when there are separate rooms. Re passwords, that’s true as well. I don’t have to know the password, but if there’s a need and you now start hiding it – then nsogbu! Lol.

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  24. Berry Dakara

    August 21, 2016 at 00:56

    Nope, never sharing my toothbrush. Never ever! And the same goes for towels – we can use the same towels, but not at the same time. I’m not sharing my sponge either – sorry. My BP goes slightly up when I know my hair products have been touched without asking first. So yeah.From personal experience – sharing phone PINs and pass codes are a no-no. Just for peace sake.Berry Dakara Blog

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 21, 2016 at 17:54

      LOOOOL. Someone has OCD? Hair products kwa?Really re sharing phone PINs and passcodes. That’s interesting – but the beauty of it, is whatever works for you both and as long as your happy.

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    • CherishExpress

      August 24, 2016 at 23:35

      Hahahahaha…. Funny lady. Please come and gist us what problems were caused by sharing of passcodes and co.

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  25. Amakamedia

    August 23, 2016 at 12:31

    Lord have mercy. I have to include some things in my prayer points now o. Like sharing toothbrushes should not cause a fight. Lol.KacheeTee, You’ve already updated the post.I am so late to the party. Reading the comments below and nodding. Ify and many others share my thoughts.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 24, 2016 at 18:28

      Hahahaha. I updated it oh. apparently too many people had an issue with it. Oh well.

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  26. Praise Abu

    August 24, 2016 at 14:13

    Truthfully, i don’t have a lot of experience when it comes to the subject of the significant other but i really don’t think sharing any of the listed items is a bit extreme. A relationship should be built on trust and understanding and like you said one might find themselves in a situation where they have to use their partners towel or tooth brush. I sometimes share my towel with my sis and she even knows all the details of my bank accounts and passwords and if i can share that with her thyen i should be able to share with my life partner.My Style Look Book Series

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 24, 2016 at 18:30

      I didn’t think so as well, but I guess people have their reasons. Growing up I shared towels as well with my sibs. And as for bank account details and all, a relationship should be built on trust – so at least there should be transparency there, i think. Thanks Praise for taking the time to share!

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  27. CherishExpress

    August 24, 2016 at 23:39

    I don’t really get the idea of couples sleeping in different bedrooms and all. I mean, when it’s cold at night and you can literally just grab your husband/bobo, why decide to sleep alone? As for the phone ish, I have never been one to go through my man’s phone. Like ever. Even if it were by my side, I don’t ever touch it. Some things are better left unknown or what do you think? Lol

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 25, 2016 at 00:59

      Totally agree with you on the bedroom thing! As for the phone, I think different strokes for different folks, but I’m just not sure what should be left unknown- we are one. Lol!

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      • CherishExpress

        August 25, 2016 at 02:10

        Hahahaha… of course you’re one. But you know… *I comment my reserve* πŸ˜‰

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  28. XOse

    August 25, 2016 at 12:33

    Girl! I am not sharing a toothbrush, sponge or towel! lol it is easy to make mistakes if the item is identical. Someone did this to me before and I almost had a heart attack. However, I do not see anything wrong with your spouse knowing your passwords or sharing a joint account.xoSEhttp://www.sashaelizabeth.com/

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  29. Sola Adesanwo

    August 25, 2016 at 18:24

    Kachi I’m with you on this. We share everything. . Toothbrush, sponge, password etc except a joint account. Guess I am tending towards weird too. It’s worked for 7+ years so hey!!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 25, 2016 at 23:18

      As in! They made me feel weird. Glad I found another partner in solidarity! πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰. Thank you for your comment!

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  30. AB x MeeMee

    August 26, 2016 at 07:55

    LOL sharing toothbrush is a no-no.You make a good case for it, as you guys exchange saliva on the regs anyway but it’s just hard.I wouldn’t share a towel or sponge either but if I had to, fine. Toothbrush though? No please!I don’t know that I’d share passwords with my husband, idk about any of these things really, but 2 have become 1 abi? Sharing everything should be normal.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 30, 2016 at 10:31

      By sharing passwords, i don’t mean you have to use the same passwords. I just think your spouse would at least know what it is, if necessary. But yes, 2 have become 1.

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  31. Mercy

    August 27, 2016 at 09:44

    I’m a massive germophobe! I cannot share my toothbrush (I just won’t brush or I’ll use mouthwash and if there’s chewing stick, better! LOL!), sponge, towel, comb/brush, etc.As for sharing bedrooms, I actually prefer separate beds/bedrooms. As in we don’t have to sleep together every single night…Abeg I need stretch body lol!Yes to sharing bank accounts, passcodes, food (if there’s enough for 2), etc.LOL! What an interesting post and I loved reading the comments. πŸ˜‚

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 28, 2016 at 15:09

      The comments made me roll! Girl, this your comment eh πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. This morning I jokingly told Hubs ‘I need stretch body!’ πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜­πŸ˜‚πŸ˜©. Thanks for stopping by love!

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  32. Chinelo Okoli

    August 28, 2016 at 14:44

    interesting list. i’ve shared toothbrush just once in my life and never again. i’m a bit of a germaphobe. And guess what? i don’t use hotel towels, ever. Because i know others have used it. As for mattresses, currently struggling with that wahala with the hubs. He favours rock hard mattresses for his bad back. we changed mattresses but its still not hard enough for himwww.neloshalo.blogspot.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 28, 2016 at 15:08

      Hahahha. I love hard mattresses too for my back! I guess at the end of the day, it’s whatever works jare.

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  33. Otelemuye

    August 29, 2016 at 10:28

    Hahaha interesting!I’m also carefree especially with my close friends so I guess that will double with my partner. Open to sharing everything (errrr for toothbrush it can happen if the situation calls for it) but I must know the person’s hygiene sha.hehe

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 30, 2016 at 10:30

      I think people thought we share one toothbrush. Lol. Not really, but right now we have the same type and it’s hard to differentiate, and I don’t think that’s so gross!

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  34. Uche Chukwudi

    August 30, 2016 at 10:42

    I share my toothbrush…if need beWe (hubs and I) don’t have individual towels… Just towels anybody can useWe have joint accountWe have each other’s passwordI guess our marriage is an open book

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 31, 2016 at 12:40

      Same as mine! So not fussy, but I understand that some people are. Thanks for your comment!

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  35. Elsa

    September 1, 2016 at 11:34

    My sister cant even use the same glass her husband used without clean it. Lol I dont get it I share everything even sometime i dont want but the hubby insist on using my staff. From towel sponge not sure about toothbrush coz normal i stay on my, but never knw may be he is using too. (am gonna beat him to nearly death lol)

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      September 15, 2016 at 11:29

      Hahahahahaa. Please don’t beat him if you find out he’s been using it! I don’t think here’s too much of a big deal. Thanks for your comment!

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  36. Omowumi Oguntuase

    September 8, 2016 at 09:24

    My parents can share anything and maybe that’s because they are from the old generation but I just believe if both of you are friends (apart from the marriage) of which you should be, then there shouldn’t be any reason not to share these things. That password issue ehn, so many people have trust issues and they don’t even trust themselves not to misbehave (in my opinion) maybe that’s why they hide stuff, my boyfriend and I know each other’s passwords and we are learning to be totally open with each other, it helps because right now we cannot even go to bed angry with each other, someone would call in the middle of the night and settle. Marriage is a partnership and should be treated as such.https://wumituase.wordpress

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  37. sandra

    September 15, 2016 at 10:32

    This is going to be a long comment. I don’t know why it took me so long to read this post. I used to be so finicky about sharing EVERYTHING mentioned in this post. I mean, if someone used a glass – I don’t care who – I’m wiping it down before I raise it to my lips.My sister used to get angry when I did that, like “what are you trying to say?”Kachi she changed my life. It started with me asking her for gum one day. She said she had just put the last one in her mouth and it was still sweet, so she cut a piece and offered it to me. I almost hurled but I took it for peace. Then one day I noticed my toothbrush was looking wonky (she brushes vigorously) and she said yes, she had been using my toothbrush cos she lost hers. I almost fainted. She made us use the same towel with rational thinking “my body is freshly washed for heaven’s sake!”; and prised my laptop password out of me. Sigh. She’s open with her stuff – belongings, money, passwords. It was hard not to change.Whew, long story… anyway now I’m pro-sharing abeg, especially for married couples. What separate bedrooms? Lol. Unless it’s a walk-in closet.Having your own is important, but sharing each other’s food, passwords, towel, sponge and yes even the occasional toothbrush won’t kill you when you’re already heavily intimate. Ha.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      September 15, 2016 at 11:03

      Hahahaha. It wasn’t THAT long! My younger brother was worse. He wouldn’t even bother wiping it. He just couldn’t use it again. I guess when you realised she had been using your toothbrush and you had sill used it and nothing happened, you prob thought ‘ok I’m still alive, no big deal’That towel argument though. If we are freshly washed, then why does the towel still get dirty. Hehehehehe. I think sharing okay. Thumbs up t your sister for bringing you over to our side!

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  38. Kachee || KacheeTee.com

    September 28, 2016 at 21:12

    Hahahaha. Better late than never! You people are extraa oh! Lol! Your parents can’t use your towel or sponge! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚Okay, maybe I’m the one that is too lax. Thanks a lot for sharing love! XxPs: will love to hear if it changes when Bae comes!

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  39. Ufuoma

    October 6, 2016 at 16:33

    Well, thanks for increasing my marriage fever, thank you Kachee!Haha this post is really hilarious. LOOLI don’t think I can share toothbrushes, I can definitely share towels though. I think toothbrushes are a little too extreme but I don’t know. I am definitely pro bank accounts but like you mentioned, having an individual one is great too.And I am definitely the annoying spouse eating off my husband’s plate. If I don’t annoy him, who will? :)Great post!

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  40. Live In Ibadan

    December 10, 2016 at 20:46

    NEVER USE TOWELS FOUND IN HOTEL ROOMS NO MATTER HOW CLEAN! Anyway, I hate sharing personal stuff. My boyfriend is VERY free with everything he has and he has NO problem with me using them but its a no no for me. He actually introduced me to eating from the same plate. I’m so unromantic!www.liveinibadan.blogspot.com

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  41. Miracle Roch

    March 10, 2017 at 16:35

    Sometimes, when ever I get to read stuff married people write I end up deflated with my bubbles burst. Have movies tricked me into thinking marriage is really 1+1? The kinda things I would want to share with my wife ehn, I can’t even blog about them. I’d be peddled with stones. Honestly, the reason for not sharing toothbrush doesn’t sit well with me neither. I’m all for sharing everything, I mean, we’re going to be in this thing for the rest of our lives. Like a lifetime! We’re definitely sharing everything. I’m shocked most married people object to the idea of sharing stuff. I must be missing something about marriage, the mental picture of marriage I have is so different! Scary for a shameless romantic like me.Stay True!www.miraclerochblog.wordpre…

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