Yes yes, we welcomed baby number 2 a little over a week ago – and we’re getting used to being a family of four! I’m looking forward to sharing all the details with you, starting with this virtual baby shower!
I surely did not see that coming. But then again, I didn’t think I’d be having a baby in the middle of a global health crisis. It was definitely an experience.
Okay, let’s talk about this virtual baby shower and how amazing it was!
First, I wasn’t even too sure I was going to have a baby shower. If you recall, when we were going to have our first baby, Tola pulled off a surprise baby shower! Reading through that blog post again recently, I noticed the last paragraph where I said I was very likely to plan my next baby shower.
As this pregnancy number 2 progressed, the thought crossed my mind a couple of times — but it seemed like so much hassle. At best, I planned to invite some of my friends for brunch and a girls’ day out.
But I guess my friends and husband had other plans which I’d later learn had been on for a couple of months before the actual date of the shower.
In the UK lockdown officially started on the 24th of March. My friends and Tola had planned the shower for the 28th of March – I was 36 weeks pregnant!
So how did he convince me to get dressed and meet the “surprise”?
Well, the evening before he told me he had arranged for a photographer to come in for a photo-shoot. He explained how he knew I’d ordinarily have loved a maternity shoot in normal circumstances. He had therefore reached out to this experienced and highly sought after maternity photographer (did he even say one of the best in the UK?) who had agreed to come in at 2
I mentioned how sweet that was! But immediately got into a mini frenzy.
“I don’t have anything to wear!”
“You should probably have given me heads-up”
He countered, “This is exactly why I didn’t tell you as I didn’t want you to stress about it. It’s not a big deal. Wear anything you have and I’m sure it’ll be great”.
“Can we not reschedule?”, I asked again.
“No, we can’t”. He responded. “Not this time anyway. If you don’t like the photos we will arrange for another one”
“But that’s a waste of money”. I went on. “You’re not the one paying”. He insisted.
Eventually, I succumbed and decided to look through my closet. But honestly, didn’t find anything I’d have loved to wear. Remember there’s a bump and it’s a maternity shoot.
I decided to wear the exact same dress I’d worn for my first maternity shoot three years ago! Since that photography session, I’d never worn it again and somewhere in my mind, I had played with the thought of wearing the same outfit for my next pregnancy! I mean, same outfit, two babies. That’s kind of cool yeah?
Then Tola goes, “oh don’t you have anything lighter?” The photographer is bringing some props with her to contrast over a lighter coloured outfit. He then offered to help me search my closet. We didn’t find any alternative.
At this point, I said, “I really should have bought that white maternity dress off Asos!”
So yeah, the plan remained as is.
The morning of the “shoot” he said he had to dash off to the store to pick up some cans of paint for some DIY we intended to carry out. When he returned without any paint I definitely thought something was fishy! Who goes out in a lock
Well, to cut the long story short I got dressed and pretty ready for 2 pm! My hair was rough and my acrylic nails had grown out, but I did the best I could! R
So I came downstairs, only to see someone that looked like my photographer friend and neighbour (I didn’t have my glasses so I couldn’t tell for sure!) and then the TV with the faces of some of my
They screamed “surprise!” and it took me a second or two to register that alas it was a virtual baby shower happening. My friend Tuawa had very kindly agreed to take a few photos in the quickest possible time (while social distancing!) and would later run back home to join in the virtual fun.
There was some light decoration and balloons, a cake and even food had been ordered that I could munch on. There were also gift bags with baby items in them.
I really wasn’t so sure how this had been pulled off. But as it turned out, there’s more back story – which I’ll get to later.
The shower itself ran on for a good couple of hours and I was blown away by the organisation, dedication and love!
There was an actual agenda, including introductions and games. The games were actually so much fun and it really didn’t feel like we weren’t in the same room. Everyone also had a touch of green on!
At some point, I got super emotional and couldn’t really hold back the tears. It was such a wonderful expression of love and connection even in difficult times.
– My husband got in touch with friends and shared his plans for a surprise baby shower. Separately some of my friend’s had already gotten in touch too!
– The plan was to hold an actual live shower and have my friends who were close by or in London attend.
– Assumpta, my friend and amazing event planner created the vision for this event and was going to bring it to life! It was going to be so lush.
– I recall that he had randomly mentioned us going on a family recreational event on a certain afternoon. In retrospect, that was a ploy to get me out of the house for most of the morning and afternoon.
– With lockdown happening, they were going to cancel the shower!
– At the last minute they decided to explore a virtual online baby shower.
– I had created an amazon baby wish list mostly to help me keep track of what I needed to buy. It was a private list on Tola’s amazon account that had the Prime membership!
– My friend and neighbour ordered the items to her house, alongside the cakes! When Tola apparently went shopping for supplies where he really went was to pick these up.
– Another friend ordered the decor and baby sash and shipped it to my neighbour’s house!
– The day before the shower, I had co-incidentally talked about ordering some Nigerian small chops and kindly requested Tola to pick it up. He surprisingly declined and said he couldn’t drive that far — which was a bit unusual. Turns out my friends had ordered already some food and chips from the same vendor for the event the next day!
Ok, that’s the extent of the back story I know. I’m sure there’s so much more that went down to make this day so beautiful.
I got a couple of quick photos with the boys, but ultimately they left me to my girls and to the fun — and I had a jolly good time!
Although my virtual baby shower happened due to the pandemic, I really think on-line/virtual baby showers and similar events could totally become a thing. It’s arguably easier to pull off and is not geographically limiting (so hello all friends!)
I wasn’t involved in planning mine, but a few tips I picked up.Have a contact person who is responsible for most of the organisation and planning.
– Create an agenda and plan for the day – to create some structure and order.
– Set up some light decor if possible to create that party vibe. If this is difficult, consider a virtual graphic background that everyone can use.
– Use an online platform or venue that doesn’t have a limit. We had to switch Zoom accounts halfway because the free account has a 40-minute cap.
– Incorporate virtual games! This was way more fun than I thought.
-Gifts may be posted to you physically, or gift registries and cards to the rescue!
– Have fun! For more tips, check out this post from WhattoExpect.
So yes, baby number 2 is here and it’s been about a week and a half of being a family of four! I’m looking forward to sharing some more details.
ps: I eventually ordered a white dress from ASOS, and took some more bump photos in them literally in the nick of time before baby arrived!
Read too: Our Birth Story and Pregnancy Diaries: First-Third Trimester
RuthMay 3, 2020 at 08:37
Awwww Congratulations Kacheee!!
God bless your new baby and your home
Your family is so beautiful
PhayteaMay 5, 2020 at 23:30
So excited about this Kachee… Great news in this very uncertain times…. You and yours are blessed
MercyMay 3, 2020 at 09:01
Awwww I’m so pleased you loved it! The photos are great, you looked so beautiful! Well done to everyone who put this together. You are clearly loved, Kachi. Hope you’re all doing well! 💛
Chiamaka IbehMay 3, 2020 at 09:34
This is such great news!!!! You were pregnant all this time???? Even in the live chats 🧡🧡🧡🧡. You’re a super woman, Kachee!!!! God bless you and your family now and always. Amen!!!
Ruths Travel: Because I Believe BlogMay 3, 2020 at 09:35
You are so blessed and truly loved and in exceptional Kachi Fashion, you had to bring out all the hacks and lessons.
You are phenomenal and God’s Blessings do not shy away from you.
Tola OMay 3, 2020 at 09:45
Awwww big congrats to you guys and God bless your hubby, so thought full of him and your friends, especially during this times.
God bless the little one xx
Chiemela IwegbulemMay 3, 2020 at 10:14
OMG!!!! Kachee, I’m screaming for joy for you and your family. I was so excited when I read the e-mail, I quickly ratted off to my sister. Congratulations to you guys.
I’m happy you had an awesome baby shower, your husband and friends are so thoughtful, I loveettt.
Cynthia AMay 3, 2020 at 10:29
Wow! Way to go Tola and friends! All of these pics are STUNNING! Congratulations babe xx
OluwatosinMay 3, 2020 at 10:33
Awwwwww congratulations Kachi. Such exciting news . Gossshhh, I am so excited. Wow!!! God continue to keep and bless your family
Julene RobinsonMay 3, 2020 at 10:59
Congratulations!!! This was beautiful
AnitaMay 3, 2020 at 11:00
Awwww. Congratulations! 😁😁😁😁 I am so happy for you. 💃 Welcome, baby. 🎉🎉🥳
JulietMay 3, 2020 at 11:12
Congrats Kachi,you’re such a super woman.
JumokeMay 3, 2020 at 11:23
Wow 😮…Congrats Kachi. All that’s running through my head is that you were pregnant and even a new mum while anchoring all the live sessions. Well done girl, you’re really a super woman. Many thanks to your husband too. God bless your new baby and do take care of you. XOXO.
OgoDeshMay 3, 2020 at 11:34
Huge Congrats! The photos look amazing and I could certainly feel the love. God bless the new baby and shower you with abundant grace for this new season❤❤
TemiladeMay 3, 2020 at 11:38
Oh Wow. This is so sweet. I was awwwwning every step of the way. Congratulations on baby number 2.
And you were on an IG live yesterday or so? Who would have thought? I am so happy for you. Congratulations again.
OluwatobiMay 3, 2020 at 11:39
Congratulations Kachee. I’m so happy for you🎉🎉🎉
TariMay 3, 2020 at 12:07
Omg congrats Kachi. I’m so excited for you and the family. I’m glad the virtual shower went great and you had a lovely time. Your husband and friends really came through. Most of my life I’ve constantly been on long distance relationships with a lot of my friends and even family, so virtual parties is definitely something I’ll be considering. Thanks for all the tips.
FisayoMay 3, 2020 at 12:08
Sade AgbajeMay 3, 2020 at 12:27
Awww the absolute best!!!!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Congratulations on your new baby Kachee
Uchechi OkoroaforMay 3, 2020 at 12:41
Congratulations, this just shows that women can have it all. A thriving career and a wonderful family. I’m so happy for you.
Desire UbaMay 3, 2020 at 12:43
This is so exciting!!!!
You surprised us AGAIN… A consistent Queen I stan!
Your home is blessed.
Trust Kachi to still teach us something, no matter what
AmarachiMay 3, 2020 at 12:45
Congratulations Kachi and Tee!💙
Sisi-AnuMay 3, 2020 at 12:49
Kachi!!!!!!!! Congratulations again and again and again!! The pictures look so amazing.
P.S This is me giving evidence that I really do read blogs (well maybe just yours) Lol
Love you Mami!!
AishaMay 3, 2020 at 13:02
Whoop whoop!!! This was such a beautiful read to wake up to. Congratulations to y’all and such a thoughtful gift. Shoutout to your husband and friends tbh! Congratulations mama! You just dropped the “baby bomb” on us like the last time and I think it was a Sunday too if I remember correctly. Hope you’re all well and safe. Love you! ❤️❤️❤️
DaraMay 3, 2020 at 13:41
ChidinmaMay 3, 2020 at 13:45
Omggg. You were pregnant all this time?? I need tips from you.
Baby J is now Big bro J. 💃
LadeMay 3, 2020 at 14:38
OMG! Congratulations Kachee!! You looked beautiful and your husband did an amazing job!
SisikunmiMay 3, 2020 at 16:05
I ran here from the newsletter. 😂😂Congratulations Kachi! 🎉🎉
ChymamakaMay 3, 2020 at 16:28
Congratulations Kachi! God bless you and the new born.
ZeenaMay 3, 2020 at 17:37
Congratulations Kachi!!!!!! Such great news! Happy that you are all well in this period.
I had a baby exactly two weeks ago, my first, it’s been crazy being separated from family and friends but we’re pushing through. I hope the times are kind to you. Enjoy the little one!
OyinkansolaMay 3, 2020 at 18:18
This is amazing news!
Congratulations Kachi. 🎉🎉🎉
BugoMay 3, 2020 at 20:48
I’m so glad I was a part of it and congratulations again and again. You’re super blessed my darling x
HadizaMay 3, 2020 at 20:49
OMG! This is super exciting! Congratulations!!! Whoop whoop!
FikeMay 3, 2020 at 20:51
congratulations Kachi! This was so beautiful to read
FehintolaMay 3, 2020 at 21:13
This is so beautiful. Congratulations ♥️♥️♥️♥️
TieséMay 3, 2020 at 21:35
AAAAAAWWW!! So so sweet and thoughtful and these pictures are gorgeous. Ah! Congratulations Kachi love. Can’t wait to meet your little one virtually. God blesss.
Chiamaka OhadiughaMay 3, 2020 at 21:42
This is so beautiful. Congratulations!!🥳🥳
AbisolaMay 4, 2020 at 01:48
I almost thought it was a guest feature when I read the newsletter! Congratulations to you and hubby on your newest arrival! Hope you’re all doing well. xxx
MaryMay 4, 2020 at 18:23
Congratulations Kachee. These pictures are so beautiful. You truly are a superwoman. Watched most of the instagram live and couldn’t have guessed. Well done.
NeloMay 4, 2020 at 19:12
Congratulations Kachi. You are all shades of amazing! The way you told this story, got me smiling all through! Kudos
OluwatosinMay 5, 2020 at 09:26
Awwwww. Congratulations Kachi.
I’m so happy for you.
You are a superwoman really and you are loved.
ToyinMay 5, 2020 at 18:15
Congratulations to you and fam, Kachi! God bless the little one!
Such lovely pictures! And the touch if green is different and nice! The green pastel cake is gorgeous!
NnediMay 5, 2020 at 23:02
Congratulations on your baby
DamfoleyMay 5, 2020 at 23:34
Congratulations Kachi. God bless the little one and the family. Special congrats to Jidenna, the big brother who now has a playmate. God bless everyone who planned this surprise for you. May God surprise them in amazing ways.
ChisaMay 6, 2020 at 08:38
Congratulations Kachee! Enjoyed reading this, such wonderful news. Blessings!
Chidinma AmoguMay 6, 2020 at 09:43
You’re blessed with really good friends, what they were able to pull of takes a lot of love and commitment. So happy for you and your family. Congratulationsssssssssss🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
JulietMay 6, 2020 at 17:49
Beautifully put. Congrats on the new one and God bless your home…..A worthwhile read..
EstherMay 9, 2020 at 18:00
Congratulations!! God bless you all 🎉🎉❤️🙏🏽
LilyMay 12, 2020 at 18:15
You look absolutely beautiful. Congratulations !!!
AkintundeMay 14, 2020 at 00:22
Congrats you guys! God bless the little one.
The DotCommerMay 16, 2020 at 15:02
Absolutely lovely read. Congatulations Kachee!
ChinnyMay 16, 2020 at 20:49
Awwwww, this is so beautiful. “same outfit, two babies” had me laughing out loud! Congratulations Kachi 🎉