Frolleague  = Friend + Colleague; or a Colleague that has become your Friend.

When you’re job-hunting, all you’re probably thinking about is the paycheque and the job perks. You most likely are not thinking about potential frolleagues. I mean, you are not going to pick a job based on the people you’ll probably spend the most time with. 9 hours a day? 40 hours a week. Approx. 1600 hours a year. You are there to work, not make friends. Right? Wrong!

When you say you’re a Data Analyst or a Restructuring Lawyer, your real friends just nod and say ‘Oh that sounds exciting’. Only your frolleague knows the shitty bits of the job and how bad the cafeteria food is.  They really understand.

So yes. You need a Frolleague.

And now, my best Frolleague is leaving me.

colleagues turned friends at work

Life really does happen in circles. So I was working as a Lawyer in Lagos when a new intern joined the firm. She was an ‘IJGB’ in Nigeria on holiday. We shared a corner and had a few laughs. I was the ‘Oldie’, She the Intern. I sort of showed her the ropes. She couldn’t understand how people ate a full plate of Jollof Rice, Fried Rice, Plantain, Moi-Moi, Chicken and Beef for lunch. She asked me how they didn’t fall asleep at their desk.

I caught a few guys staring at her occasionally. Ehm… understandably so, as they often starred from behind.

We talked about salaries of entry-level graduates in Nigeria, and if she were having a drink at that time, she’d have choked. You see, she had just gotten an offer with the biggest law firm in the world, and was considering whether or not to accept it. Our conversation left her no choice.  She bade us farewell and went back to England. We sent a few emails back and forth. Hi Hi kind of emails.

I found myself in England for my LL.M and decided to explore the job market. She gave me a few tips. I applied to that law firm. I mentioned her name in my interview. You know how you drop that line ‘Oh my very good friend works here, and she’s had the best things to say about this place’. I got the job. I emailed her. We screamed. Our friendship began. My start date was in two years. Yes, City law firms in London hire fresh graduates two years in advance.

In March 2015, I resumed at the office. She was now the ‘Oldie’ and I the ‘Newbie’. We saw. We hugged. Our Frolleague relationship had officially begun.

Today, it officially ends. But it may be just for a while. We may become frolleagues again. Who knows?

So N, thank you for all the great times we’ve had in and out of the office. In particular, thank you:

-For all your help with sorting my wedding shoes and a second dress at the last minute.

-For letting me know the correct pronunciation is Tai not Thai (Restaurant).

-For making me try Sushi. I can’t believe I’m getting to like it.

-For trying to make me ‘fit fam’. I may now understand having ‘salad’ and tomato soup for lunch, and I’ve signed up for the Gym. Now all I have to do is actually attend.

-For playing Cupid and helping Tee organise my 26th Birthday Party, and bursting some major dance moves.

-For letting me borrow your make-up the numerous times I left mine at home

-For trying to convince me that a good ‘designer‘ handbag is a need. I believe you, darling. Just waiting for my bank account to believe you too.

-For the unending hilarious stories about your mum. You know you have to set up a meeting when I’m in Lagos.

-For trying to improve my music streak – sending me Bey and Rihanna’s hits. I’m hopeless, and I don’t think I’ll pay to attend a Bey concert. Sorry!

-For understanding those Igbo and Nigerian ‘Lingua’ expressions.

-For the long office lunches, coffee breaks, Lync conversations and office rants.

It’ll definitely feel different around this place.

I won’t be able to reach you on ext. 1024 any more, and it’s a good thing they are jazzing up the lunch area because I couldn’t sit on those red couches without remembering our lunch dates.

PS: I know you still don’t like the fact that I have that blinking light on my office phone which shows I have 10 unread messages. I promise I’ll sort that out. Now you have to promise me that you won’t often forget your work clothes at home when you go to the gym. In Lagos, there are no high street shops around the corner to pop into and buy new clothes.

Do you guys think Frolleagues are necessary? Do you have any? How will you feel if they left? Please Share!

Love,

Kachee… Xx


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  1. karen

    February 27, 2016 at 08:08

    This sounds soo emotional…N don’t go.kachi isn’t good at being alone..oh well.All the best!I’m sure you both will be alright.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      February 28, 2016 at 19:35

      Lol! Thanks Karen. I guess I have to make new frolleagues!! Xx

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  2. KIKELOMO OMOTALADE

    February 29, 2016 at 11:53

    i can’t imagine what the situation would have been like if you were mean to her as a newbie……..Xx

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      March 1, 2016 at 18:54

      Actually never thought of that. Lol. I guess that’s a lesson for us all… Xx

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  3. Anidiobi Eric Ejiofor

    June 7, 2016 at 07:45

    What goes around comes around, look at how she turned back to be the one helping you out. We moving in circles!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 7, 2016 at 08:41

      We really do move in circles. So important to be be helpful to people at all times. Thanks for your comment Eric!

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  4. Abby

    July 23, 2016 at 11:47

    This was really nice to read! Bless Her! Frolleagues make those difficult and boring days feel better and go faster. Also very important to choose wisely, so your ‘gist’ doesn’t end up in the grapevine.Loool

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 19, 2016 at 12:48

      Ah! On that gist p.. You need to careful really! Thanks Abby!

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  5. Oyindamola Abbatty

    August 19, 2016 at 12:32

    Aww…I wish I had a frolleague like yours. I can totally relate with the entry level salary part as I just graduated myself. Hope to meet great people like this in the future.

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  6. Kachee || KacheeTee.com

    August 19, 2016 at 12:41

    She’s left me! Lol! I’m sure you will. Frolleagues are so necessary and make office time better!. I’m sure you’ll find great people. All the best with life after Uni – exciting times ahead. Xx

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  7. Joy Ehonwa

    September 2, 2016 at 15:11

    I thoroughly enjoyed this, such a sweet friendship. And I learnt a word I’ve been looking for, frolleague! I prefer friendships after one or both of us have left the job though, especially when we’re in the same industry.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      September 2, 2016 at 15:45

      Thank you! You just brought me to this post and now I’m feeling all nostalgic!

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  8. Muna

    March 2, 2017 at 16:26

    awwwwww this is one emotional post! I had frolleague’s at my previous workplace, I miss them tho. It’s good to have people you can talk work with and they actually understand, it doesn’t make the job easier it just makes it fun lol :’) How to: DIY Chokers on It’s Munastiic

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  9. Mo

    May 9, 2020 at 16:50

    My frolleague just left. It was lovely. I’m hopeful that we’ll graduate to friends but who knows. I’m thankful for the memories and the understanding.

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