As you probably know, Tee & I had our 3 year wedding anniversary earlier this month. So while I finally blogged about our Nigerian (Igbo and Yoruba) traditional wedding ceremony, I also wanted to write a serious -ish post on some lessons and thoughts that have crossed my mind in these 3 years (that post should still happen, hopefully).

Then again, a husband tag sounded like fun, and asking Tee some random questions seemed like a good idea – which I had considered in this Get to Know Me Tag and you peeps agreed.

I also asked readers via Instagram story if they would like to see a husband tag. Many said yes. I think they assumed it was going to be a video tag! Oooops, we’re both too shy for that. A couple of people seemed disappointed but then confirmed that they’d still love a written one. So I decided to go ahead with it – because a part of me was slightly curious about his answers.

You’ve probably seen a few couples do those husband tags on YouTube. I didn’t particularly like a lot of the questions as these were mostly ‘what’s my favourite this or that?‘. And even I can’t tell you what my favourite anything is, so how much more he.  So I skipped a lot of the ‘favourite’ type questions and I finally persuaded him to answer the questions.

To be honest, I had a good laugh at a number of them!

1. What were your first thoughts when you saw me / earliest memory of me?

  • No first thoughts particularly. You were probably like just a random girl. I mean, you were just a girl sitting in front of the social science building waiting for your friend to make a photocopy. I remember you had short braids though. After that, we had the church encounter. But my fave earliest memory of you had to be our first date on your birthday in 2007! Gosh, I fell in love with your hair that day.

Me: Uhm, if you remember my hairstyle, then maybe it wasn’t so random! Plus that was like the worst hairstyle I’ve ever made. Literally took it off in two days. (Details of the church encounter + first date.)

2. What do you think I can cook with my eyes closed? What would you rather cook yourself?

  • Your Jollof rice! It’s like the same all the time. With the leaf and the tomato sliced on top! But I’d rather make my own noodles and omelette eggs with potato or yam. Think I do those much better than you.

Me: It’s called Bay Leaves. 

3. What’s the one way I get on your nerves the most?

  • When you go into a mood and I’m trying to figure out what’s wrong. Does my head in!

4. In approximately 10 years of knowing me and 3 years married, how would you say I’ve changed?

  • You’re so much more mature. You’ve grown up from a fine young girl (who always wanted to jump) to a fine young woman.

Me: I still want to jump and be a child sometimes. (Guys remember this post on being and unleashing your inner child, inspired by me wanting to get on the trampoline recently and he giving me side eye that I’m too old to jump!)

5. If money were no object, what gift would you buy for me for our anniversary?

  • You know I believe more in creating memories. So it’ll probably be like a super crazy and fun filled  series of holidays. Plus I don’t think you’re a very material person as well.

Me: Yeah my love language has definitely changed over time. I used to like tangible gifts. (See this post on my 25th birthday and my tangible gift dilemma – Gift Preferences: Tangible Gifts, Memories/Experiences or Money?)

6. What’s your favourite memory of our wedding day?

  • Definitely taking the vows! Ah, so deep. And at the reception, it has to be when my friends and I took over the band and sang the Yoruba song ‘Baby Jowo’ to you.

Me: You did struggle to hold back the tears at the wedding. I agree that for me as well, that was definitely one of the 5 most amazing moments at our wedding. 

7. What’s my best non-physical trait?

  • How smart you are! I can actually never forget how you remembered my exam number for my IELTS exam in 2009 or so. You barely saw the slip once, and weeks or months later you still remembered. I got to the exam hall without the slip and didn’t remember my number. I wouldn’t have been able to write the exam, but I took a chance and called you to ask if you could remember it, and you did!

Me: *butter flies, butterflies* Not sure my memory is that good anymore, so may be don’t bank on it though! 

8. Who said ‘I love you’ first, and where did you say you loved me?

  • Definitely me. I think I sent you a text. Hahaha. And then when you came over to social sciences building, we met up in one of the classrooms and I told you in person I think. Memory is a bit fuzzy here.

Me: Yeah, I don’t particularly remember details either. 

9. If you had a yacht and had to name it after me or related to me, what would it be?

  • Sorry, I’m not that creative so it’ll just be KacheeTee!

10. If you could get rid of one item of clothing or anything else that belongs to me, what would it be?

  • The first thing that comes to mind is Culottes! But of course I don’t even hate them in the least. Not sure there’s really anything I’d get rid of.

11. What’s the best gift I’ve given you?

  • Best gift is yourself. Honestly & Genuinely

Me: Now you’re gonna make me cry. Lol!

12. Would you marry me again?

  • Yes. And have that vow taking moment again

(I suggest a vow renewal, he says it’s not quite the same!)

13. In the next three years what are you looking forward to the most?

  • Starting and raising a family!

14. Describe our relationship in three words

This sounds like one of those ‘tell me about yourself questions‘. The first word is definitely Beautiful. But I don’t want to go on using perfect words, and I’m not sure I can find the exact words – English isn’t my strongest point. But it’s related to sacrifice and the willingness to give all.


In all of his answers, I’m not sure there’s anything that pretty shocked me. But it was just good to relieve memories and have a good laugh! There was one more question about what we argue about the most, and we couldn’t obviously pinpoint one thing. That’s not to say we don’t argue or have differences but at least there’s not one constant thing.

On a lighter note though, I did think about how recently we have to really agree on what music gets played in the car. As you probably know I’m not such a music person, but Tee is, and I love that he loves his music. The only slight issue here is my brain. A lot of songs (especially Nigerian songs!) have lyrics that annoy me a whole lot. The thing is Tee (like most people apparently) do not pay heed to these lyrics. They apparently don’t hear it, and are just more about the beat.

Me, I can’t hear any beat. My brain soaks up the lyrics like a sponge and then keep re-playing in my head over and over. So now, he plays a song in the car, and we both have to decide if it’s clean enough for my brain. I just think it’s interesting how these little differences show up in marriage.

All in all, I think it’s amazing being married. And I’m glad I’m hearing and seeing better stories these days. No marriage is perfect; it will require work & sacrifice, there will be good days & not-so-good days. But in the long run, I’m a huge fan of the marriage institution!

Love, 

Kachee.. Xx


pS: That photo above is one of my all-time faves! From about 4 years ago in 2013, in Amsterdam when we travelled together for the first time. We were engaged, but not yet married. It was very low budget and all, but we still had such a great time! You can check out our more recent travels in the blog travel section, and more of our story/wedding/moments in the relationship section.

ppS: If you’re interested in more love stories, read from Nigerian Inter-Ethnic Couples here!


Read too: How to Survive Long Distance Relationships (Successfully!) and 6 Questions on our Inter-Ethnic Marriage.


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  1. Bubu Green

    July 30, 2017 at 11:32

    Beautiful people! This was a fun read. Meanwhile, there’s this show on EbonyLife TV I stumbled upon called ‘This is It!’. The main male character reminds me of your hubby and if I heard correctly, he’s called “Tee” as well. Check it out and make your judgement.lol.www.bubusboulevard.com

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    • Sky

      July 31, 2017 at 07:30

      *snaps fingers* you’re right, the two Tees have some similarities, so cool of you to link it.This was such a good post Kachi, y’all are cute and so much in love!May God continue to bless your marriage. X.

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      • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

        July 31, 2017 at 11:49

        Hahahaha @ snaps fingers. They do have some similarities.Thank you Sky! So great to see you again. Amen & Amen!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:48

      I’ve watched This is It & loved it! Was waiting for season 2, and don’t know if it’s out now. But yes, I saw a few similarities between them and us. Maybe that’s why I liked it. I think I even did a post about it – or maybe it’s in my draft. Lol!

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  2. Ufuoma

    July 30, 2017 at 12:03

    This was such a beautiful read. I was awwwing the entire time. I love the part where you helped him by remembering his IELTS number. So cool!www.theufuoma.comtravel lifestyle passion

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:50

      Awww glad you liked it! He was genuinely in awe. I think God just helped me remember as even I was shocked.

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  3. 'Dara

    July 30, 2017 at 12:08

    You had me in stitches at the part of deciding if a music is ‘clean enough for your head!’ Anyway, I think that’s why I enjoy R & B and Blues. Audible and reasonable lyrics.I totally enjoyed reading this post.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:47

      It’s actually such a struggle. That’s why I listen to only a few musicians and mostly oldies. Lol!

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  4. Munachi

    July 30, 2017 at 12:14

    Love is beautiful shaaaa. ..I was just smiling the whole timePs: this your social sciences block though * winks*

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:47

      Hahaha. Me I was in Law oh. I have no idea what went down in their Social Science block. Lol!

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  5. Afoma

    July 30, 2017 at 14:27

    Awwwww too cute! Tee obviously really loves you! This was a nice read, Kachi! xafomaumesi.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:46

      Now I’m blushing! Thanks A. Xx

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  6. Grace Smart

    July 30, 2017 at 16:02

    Lol. This was pretty interesting and cute. Tee is still so much in love with you. Keep being the good wife you are.www.liveinibadan.blogspot.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:46

      Hahahaha! By God’s grace I will..

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  7. Abby

    July 30, 2017 at 16:09

    His answer to number 11 is the sweetest cutestttt everything. LolWish you both many more years of happy memories filled with beautiful moments and love. Xx.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:45

      Had to go back to check number 11! That was actually sweet to hear. Thanks you so much Abby!

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  8. Awe Boluwatife

    July 30, 2017 at 16:24

    This was an amazing read! Been refreshing your page for a new post and glad I read one! 🙊

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 30, 2017 at 16:46

      Hahaha! Glad you enjoyed it. Xx

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  9. Kelechi

    July 30, 2017 at 17:04

    Beautiful read, so cute!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 31, 2017 at 11:50

      Thanks Kelechi!

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  10. Berry Dakara

    July 30, 2017 at 23:13

    This was fun to read. Tee seems like such a nice person :)P.S. It’s funny you’re hearing and seeing better stories of marriage these days, because I’m seeing the opposite. And it’s happening closer to home than I would have thought!www.berrydakara.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 3, 2017 at 15:16

      He is. lol!Really? Maybe I’m judging from social media ohh.. Hmm.

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  11. Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde

    July 30, 2017 at 23:58

    This was a fun read lolI’m somewhere in between with the music situation, I love to listen to lyrics definitely but sometimes when the beat is just too banging no need to deep the song again HahahaToyinwithfashion.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 3, 2017 at 15:16

      No matter how banging the beat is, I can’t relate. Boring, I know!

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  12. Eniola Lofindipe

    July 31, 2017 at 00:35

    Awww! You and Tee are so cute. Love the part about you remembering his IELTS number for him. I agree on Nigerian songs. I heard one at a wedding a few weeks ago and its still stuck in my head. Something about ‘penalty and throwing’.Let me go do my own husband tag questions. Should be fun.Thecuriousmum.wordpress.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 3, 2017 at 15:14

      Thanks Enny! Omgeee, I just heard that penalty song. Thank God I didn’t even really listen. Will you share on the blog? I’d love to read!

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      • Eniola Lofindipe

        August 11, 2017 at 10:07

        Lol! Oh yes I will.

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  13. Kosiso Asomugha

    July 31, 2017 at 10:03

    Interesting as always…. I have the response to music as you do. I am always listening for the lyrics and not really the beat. It irks me a lot when I hear crappy lyrics…. Will try the Husband tag thing when I get married.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 3, 2017 at 15:13

      Crappy lyrics irk me so much!

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  14. Omowumi Oguntuase

    August 2, 2017 at 09:29

    I have probably said this too many times, you both are too cute. Tee reminds me of my Yoruba male friends, I was literally imagining his responses and just started laughing. Kachee, don’t lose the fun in your marriage (advice from a single clueless lady LOL). God keep you both, can’t wait to be an ‘e-aunty’ LOL.www.wumituase.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 2, 2017 at 09:33

      Awww e-aunty! That’s so cute. Lol. We’d really try not to, God helping us.! 💓

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  15. Tola

    August 3, 2017 at 00:14

    I better not be the only one but I was reading all the questions in a female’s voice and all the answers in a male’s voice, LOL! Like Tee, I don’t hear lyrics, I just don’t, I’m all about the beat especially if it’s Nigerian music / afrobeat because half the time the lyrics is about women or bumbum anyway so my brain doesn’t bother 😩 My friends tease me all the time about how I can’t learn lyrics to save my life ( even after listening to a song 500 times)www.adoseoftola.wordpress.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 3, 2017 at 15:13

      Haahhaha. I think I hear it only when the lyrics is rubbish. You’re so lucky you really don’t hear them.

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  16. Lara Teshola

    August 3, 2017 at 13:56

    We had our 4th year Anniversary couple of weeks back… I am so doing this husband tag on the blog! Such a wonderful and giggly read.www.larateshola.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 3, 2017 at 15:12

      You should. I’d love to read.

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  17. Demilade

    August 5, 2017 at 15:42

    I smiled all through while reading this, so cute. I don’t even know what to say, it was just so cute. Can’t believe you remembered his IELTS number though, that’s so cool! xxCoco Bella Blog

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  18. Adetunji Otemade

    October 26, 2017 at 20:25

    Congratulations

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  19. Unravelling Nigeria

    November 23, 2017 at 13:41

    I really liked this. Yes I know this post was long time ago but I’m just catching up on posts I missed.I love that his answers were centered around immaterial, genuine things. (if that makes any sense)Many more years to you guys.

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