I love speaking to myself – often imagining I have my own TV show. Being married sort of means I have to turn that down a notch lest someone begins to wonder if I’m okay. But I don’t think I’m alone in this. I recently read a thread where a woman said her husband walked in on her speaking loudly and pretending like she was on her own show with a full audience. He was slightly confused. A lot of other women responded saying they did the same as well!

Anyway, yesterday while getting set for work in the morning, I had one of those talk-to myself moments as I said “I’m going to be so frugal in these coming weeks”. I thought it was a slight whisper, but I must have been pretty audible because from across the room, Tee responded, “Me too!”

In my mind, I’m thinking “how weird that we’re planning to be frugal as we approach February – the supposed month of romance, love and lavish gifting”

So I started thinking of fun romantic ways to have fun with your spouse or partner. The criteria: first, no money to be spent. Because isn’t it true that when we think of fun, we automatically think of money? And second it should be do-able. I come across a lot of lists and I really roll my eyes, like ‘uhm, that’s not really do-able!’

1. Write out poems or love letters to each other

Just incase one person is more of a Shakespeare than the other, you can put a limit – say like 10 line poetry or maximum of 20 sentences.  Exchange them and then read it aloud.  If words are not your thing, you could draw each other, complete with how you think they’d be in 10 years. Pot belly or abs?

2. Give each other a mini grooming session

I think it’s cute when guys polish their girl’s finger or toe nails. I’ve seen quite a few people do it for their pregnant wives – you know when the bump won’t let her bend over and touch her toes. But she doesn’t have to be pregnant to do this. And even if the guys aren’t experts at this and end up messing it up, it’s fine – it’s just for fun anyway! And in return she could groom his beard or give him a hair cut (if he’s brave enough to allow!)

3. Look through your old photos / videos together

If you’ve been together for a while this should be fun! I felt bad when I lost my hard drive which had most of our early relationship photos. So the few I have now I treasure them and although not very flattering, it’s often fun to look at!

Related: How We met, Our First Date & a Nine year Later Photoshoot!

4. See a Movie

Nope, no cinema – at home! My preference is always an easy going romantic movie or comedy that doesn’t need much concentration. If you’ve got those microwaveable popcorns, that’s a bonus! No Netflix subscription? Try YouTube. No internet? – well forget about actually seeing a movie. Why not pick a few of your favourite TV characters and try to mimic them!

5. Play an Indoor Game

On my very first CV, and in the hobbies section, I had included the phrase ‘love playing indoor games’. I think a cheeky interviewer once tried to read that differently. So for clarity, I mean board games such as Monopoly, Scrabble or Chess (which could take hours!) or something quicker like Ludo. You could play Truth or Dare – but be careful, we don’t want any relationships breaking up over this. Video games are also an option as well, if possible. In the absence of these, get some good old paper and make some origami (you know those space ships and airplanes you made with paper as a child). Adults can enjoy them too, or generally think of those fun activities you did as a child.

Related: Dear Adults, It's Okay to Unleash Your Inner Child

6. Cook a Meal or Bake

Last weekend I made a rather yummy lemon drizzle cake. I was slightly nervous and kept checking the oven every five minutes – as my last experience of baking bread wasn’t great at all. But this was so easy and turned out perfect! The husband even said he’d love to ‘help out’ on the next one. Not sure how if helping out just means being in the kitchen, but nonetheless, cooking together can be fun – as long as it isn’t crazy tasking recipes. So find loads of easy food or cocktail recipes, and enjoy it.

7. Sing to Each Other/ Dance Together / Create Your own Music

Karaoke at home? Why not. Get the lyrics to your favourite song, mute the volume and then sing your heart out!  You could even try creating your own re-mix by adding a personal verse. You never really know what innate talents you’ve got there until you try. If you’re feeling pretty brave – record this and share with the world. You both could be the next Bonnie and Clyde

8. Work Out!

I’m low key jealous of all those couples on Instagram who work out together. Looking all fit and hash tagging #CoupleGoals. We’ve only managed to pull this off a few times, but it was fun – particularly the time I made him do push ups with me on his back (obviously having seen this on Instagram!). So, if fitness is your thing- you should try this out. You know what they say – better together.

9. Learn a new Language?

No, not the entire language. That sounds more like work than fun. But you could look up how to say “I Love You” in 10 different langauges (each) and share with each other. I’ll give you one to get you ahead – In German, it’s ‘Ich Liebe Dich’. I know this because that’s what Tee wrote on my 20th birthday cake – there was definitely a private joke around that which I don’t really remember now! And while we’re at it – it may be helpful to take the quiz and actually discover your love language!

10. Pray

No fun in praying? That’s not true. There’s something so warm about couples praying together. being so transparent and open and together in heart and mind. I surely think that’s worth pursuing. Obviously you don’t have to spend the entire day on this number 10. But it’ll be good to throw it into any other activities above!

Notes on being Frugal:

(i) Expensive isn’t always best. Sure you can relate to those days you have such an expensive meal but wish you’d stayed home and whipped up your own meal.

(ii) You really shouldn’t have to live beyond your means to impress your partner. After all, we already agreed to be very open and honest in money matters.

Related: 5 Categories of Money Questions to Discuss while Dating (& even if you're Married!)

Do you often try out any of these? How else do you have fun at home without spending money?

Love,

Kachee… Xx


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  1. Toyosi

    January 31, 2017 at 09:25

    Love love the ideas!! some where already on my list…hehe will update 😀

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      January 31, 2017 at 15:07

      Update! Lol Thanks Toyosi.

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  2. Debs

    January 31, 2017 at 09:27

    Hahahahahaha, I love this Kachee. I am single but I think I cam pick a few to try with bobo. I am so going to be frugal in February because I seem to be overspending these days.

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  3. Sarah Enuwa Audu

    January 31, 2017 at 11:27

    These are pretty great points, helpful for those unmarried couples who want to stay celebate although caution must be excerised I guess. I love the idea of watching movies together and praying, I need to do more of that. Also a mini bible study session would be cool too, you know studying the word together and talking about it. Oh and another one which is lots of fun and sparks up a lot of talk is looking through old pictures of each other, this is great for couples who have not been dating for long. Lol looking at me sounding like I have lots of experience.Princess Audu

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  4. Precious

    January 31, 2017 at 13:24

    I would love a grooming session, a movie and a work-out session! You are so right, when you say expensive isn’t always better. The simple things of life are so beautiful and so value-addingAlso, there’s nothing like praying together as a couple. It strengthens the bond like nothing else.Thank you for sharing, dear.PreciousCore.com

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  5. yevandy

    January 31, 2017 at 14:05

    these are creative tips.. They can be done by people dating sef. I think I also need to be frugal this February.. You are convincing me.. 🙂 becomingyeva.wordpress.com

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  6. A girl called

    January 31, 2017 at 17:58

    I like the praying tip. lol karaoke ke, a toad probably sounds better but I won’t mind tho. I really love your blog kachee, I’m always smiling once I see your blog mail. Thank you and have a wonderful February ahead.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      January 31, 2017 at 18:06

      I also do not have the best voice myself. But if it’s just both of you, hopefully that won’t matter.Thank you SO much. Some days I wonder if anyone is reading and if it’s worth it. Such message keeps me going.

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  7. Nemiii

    January 31, 2017 at 19:09

    Love these tips as I am all about “Frugal February” new series perhaps ;). I really liked #3 looking through old photos and taking a trip down memory lane, it always makes me happy. Dreaming and planning together is another cheap and fun relationship thing to do, ours always revolve around planning the next holiday and designing the dream house if we won the lottery :). PS Love your blog!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      February 13, 2017 at 12:56

      Nemi!I totally thought I replied this. I LOVE looking at old photos. And I agree we’re always constantly thinking of our next holiday and dream house. Asides fun, I realise that dreaming just helps you set goals subconsciously.pS: Thank you, that means a lot to me!

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  8. Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde

    February 1, 2017 at 09:42

    Lmao so no “indoor games” for we the pringles! This is a very nice list i will be doing for myself to myself lol . I’m definitely for the “not everytime go out, sometimes sit in your house” like my mother would say hahatoyinwithfashion.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      February 1, 2017 at 12:35

      Yes 😝😝You’re allowed out door games for now! Sit in your house. Lol!

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  9. mosimi20

    February 4, 2017 at 18:03

    I absoltely love indoor games and I think when I get my own place. I would like to host my friends to such. This list is great if there was bae uno and co but no bae sadly. I would however bookmark it for when I have bae.www.EatTechTravel.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      February 13, 2017 at 12:57

      Me too!. I loved to play Monopoly with friends. These days though many of us just stay on our phones. Time to bring that back. Hahaha – bookmark it biko!

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  10. Olutimehin A.

    February 22, 2019 at 09:35

    I just discovered your blog, and it’s so great to read! I’m not even a romantic person lol — I have no desire to be married sef but it’s wonderful to see how so many people are being intentional about kindness, purpose, care and love as they navigate their most intimate (and hopefully lifelong!) relationships. Also, there are lessons for everyone, regardless of our romantic inclinations or lack thereof. Well done and thank you.

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