Some days, I feel like a superwoman. Other days I have no interest in ‘adulting’. But in recent times, I’ve been thinking about the Proverbs 31 woman – the one who is more precious than rubies.

So, on this chilled Friday evening, I decided to have a conversation with her and compare myself to her! Ambitious right? Well, maybe she’ll give me the much-needed inspiration I need on those days all I want to do is sleep!

The Proverbs 31 Woman

So here goes:

Her: My Husband can trust me and I will greatly enrich his life!

Me: I’ll like to believe I’m already enriching Tee’s life and he can trust me!

Her: I find wool and flax and busily spin it.

Me: Sorry, can’t spin!  But I try to work really hard at my day job as a Lawyer.

Her: I get up before dawn to prepare breakfast for my household and plan the day’s work for my servant girls

Me: First off, you have servants! See, I definitely need to get a new home cleaner.  One person shouldn’t do all that work! I also note that you plan the day’s work and probably don’t do all of the work yourself.  I’m happy to plan and give instructions of course.

Oh. But you get up before dawn though? OK, you win on this one. I love to sleep and I actually dislike making breakfast. Too early. I’ll try to work on that.

Her: I go to inspect a field and buy it. With my earnings, I plant a vineyard.

Me: Hmmm. This means you have your own money and source of income. Well, I’ve always been #TeamJointandSeparate accounts so that works. Do you buy the field without your husband knowing? I guess not. Well, I haven’t bought a field, but I bought a domain name and I’m planting blog posts on it. Good enough? In due time, I’ll buy a field.

Her: I am energetic and strong, a hard worker!

Me: All the time? Like you’re energetic and strong all the time? Sometimes I am, but sometimes I’m so darn tired and lazy. I’ll improve!

Her: I make sure my dealings are profitable, my lamp burns late into the night!

Me: You see! I knew you weren’t running a business as a free charity. You were making profit yo. Maybe it’s time to think of profits? Hmmm…Thanks for this inspiration, Sis. *high five*

Her: I extend a helping hand to the poor and open my arms to the needy.

Me: I said a quick hello to the homeless guy at the train station this morning. Does that count? I do a bit more though, but yeah, I get your point, I need to be much more charitable. Noted.

Her: I have no fear of winter for my household, for everyone has warm clothes

Me: Girl, y’all didn’t live in the UK!! No matter how much warm clothes you have, you still fear winter.  Plus Tee hates coats and jackets. So no, he doesn’t have warm clothes during winter, and I can’t do much about that.  But I’ll keep this in mind if there’s any way I can make my household better.

Her: I make my own bedspreads. I dress in fine linen and purple gowns.

Me: Why make when we can buy!? Laying the bed is a hassle on its own, how much more make the bedspreads.

But hey, you dress in fine linen? I’m here for that! I knew you weren’t a fan of cheap tacky clothes! You work hard for your money, you wear fine linen. Very much noted. I’ll also have to learn some makeup and hair care. I’m sure yours were always on fleek.

Her: I am clothed with strength and dignity and I laugh without fear of the future!

Me: Give me this! I want this! Sometimes I wonder about the future, but now hopefully like you, I’ll laugh without fear of it. You definitely don’t miss an opportunity to mention how strong you are though. Just keep rubbing it in.

Her: When I speak, my words are wise and I give instructions with kindness

Me: Hmmm. When you speak. I guess you don’t speak all the time, and only when necessary making sure you’re dishing out wisdom. You go girl. No time for rubbish conversations or gossip. Not like I indulge in those oh!

You give instructions with kindness – Now that’s one to note, even though some people just make you lose your temper! But I’ll try to be just like you – more kindness!

Her: I  carefully watch everything in my household and suffers nothing from Laziness

Me: *sigh* I opened the fridge this morning and noticed that the plantain in there was going bad! I guess I didn’t carefully watch it. But yes yes, we get your point on not being lazy. How many times do you have to say it!? Perfect MrsProverbs31 Woman

Her: My Children stand and bless me, my husband praises me.

Me: Hey! My husband praises me too… (most times) but I’m sure my children will praise me all the time! So we’re even on that.


Ok, that’s it. We have to agree she’s definitely some kind of woman. taking care of her home, taking care of her business, working late into the night and making profits, looking all fleek in her purple gowns and still speaking to everyone with kindness and helping the poor. It doesn’t quite get any better than that. That’s a lot of inspiration for us ladies!

Oh, and her husband praises her all the time. Men, you really should learn to praise your wife publicly. And also, it’s necessary to let women have some money of their own. How will they buy a field or buy you the perfect gift if they don’t?

I really loved having this conversation and I hope you got inspired in some way.

Share your thoughts! What do you think of the Proverbs 31 Woman? What do you need to improve upon?

Love,

Kachee… Xx

  • pS: I had the conversation with the Proverbs 31 Woman from the NLT Bible version.
  • ppS: Did you know there was a Proverbs 31 man as well? My friend pointed it out. Read here.
  • pppS: Someone should please suggest what I can do with overripe plantains.

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  1. Paula Olaitan Benedict

    June 17, 2016 at 18:13

    Very lovely write-up dear…. over ripe plantain recipe _ http://www.9jafoodie.com/ov

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 18, 2016 at 07:21

      Thanks lovely! I’ll check out the recipe. I was pretty sure there was lots to do with it! 😘😘😘

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  2. Berry Dakara

    June 17, 2016 at 18:38

    Make mosa! Or just fry it – us Rivers people like our plantain overripe anyways.I like the conversation! I know I can improve on a lot, but it’s raining outside right now and I feel lazy, so… I’ll improve tomorrow.Berry Dakara Blog

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 18, 2016 at 07:22

      Hey Berry! It’s already tomorrow oh. Oya lets improve together 👯.I thought of Mosa but I don’t like it. I may just end up frying it to be honest! 😘

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    • Okoli Chinomso Grace

      June 18, 2016 at 09:14

      Lol, Berry o. Aw have you been?

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    • Nedoux

      June 19, 2016 at 09:39

      Hey Berry,Yeah mosa is nice, it’s my second favourite small chops. Puff Puff stays winning. 🙂

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  3. cassandra ikegbune

    June 18, 2016 at 07:14

    You see this is why we love you and your blog?Always giving interesting perspectives to everything. I loved this breakdown and though I’m not married, I’m answering each questions in my head currently.www.cassiedaves.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 18, 2016 at 08:09

      Awww! Thank you Cassie!!

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    • Okoli Chinomso Grace

      June 18, 2016 at 09:12

      Hey girl, I see ya..

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  4. Okoli Chinomso Grace

    June 18, 2016 at 09:12

    LMAO, this conversation certainly cracked me up. The Proverbs 31 woman is a real super woman with special powers I guess. I did an in depth study about her few weeks ago and put up a post about it on my blog http://www.theshanyilife.co…It’s really amazing how she balances on every side. I’m single but I’m constantly working on myself to match her. Let’s see how far we can go. All these requires God’s grace and strength.www.theshanyilife.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 16:54

      Let’s see how far we can go! I think it’s really a continuous process. God help us! I’ll definitely check out your piece on this. Xx

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  5. Tunrayo A.

    June 18, 2016 at 10:09

    It was good reading about Proverbs 3 woman. It reminded me of how I could work on myself to become a better person.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 13:08

      Glad you liked it Tunrayo!! We do constantly need to work on ourselves.

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  6. TobyMary

    June 18, 2016 at 12:44

    Proverb 31 is my watch word though and have been sharing my deep insight with close friends about her of late. Anyways, to sum this up I think she’s the best example of a balanced life for all women. The role of a woman is not a shabby role the way its been played out in our generation…. it takes courage and deep determination, making the dough and still remembering that your primary assignment is your home. I intend writing a book on this someday though, in process but thoughtful of you to post this kachi, more strength.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 14:14

      Hey Tobs! Thanks for commenting. I totally agree with you that she’s the example of a well-balanced life. I’m sure there’s so more insight we can gain from her. I hope you really do write the book! Xx

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  7. Damilola Ayorinde

    June 18, 2016 at 15:55

    Thanks for sharing this. Incidentally, I had my own conversation this week and God taught me something new.When the Bible says her family is doubly clothed in scarlet, it means they are clothed and washed in the precious blood of Jesus. She has no fear because their lives are hid in Christ Jesus! Safe from every form of harm regardless of all that goes on around just like Rahab and her family were saved from the destruction in Jericho because of the scarlet cord.P.S. Reading this scripture in different translations is WOW! You should try it.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 14:42

      Hi Dami!I was totally going to read it in different translations. Thanks for reminding me! And your point about being clothed in scarlet is quite an interesting perspective. Thanks for leaving a comment. Xx

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  8. Nedoux

    June 19, 2016 at 09:34

    Lol… This was so witty Kachee.The Proverbs 31 woman has long been placed on a pedestal as the ideal standard for the perfectly virtuous woman. I like how you made realistic comparisons against the modern woman living in today’s world.I have finally learned to laugh without fear of the future, but I am not always energetic. Lagos traffic stays sucking my energy with a straw since 1900.A great read. 🙂

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 14:16

      Thanks Nedu!Gosh. Lagos Traffic drains even the most energetic people! I think learning to laugh without fear of the future is necessary. Why Worry?

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  9. pagesbyike

    June 20, 2016 at 03:54

    It inspired me. Yam porridge and ripe plantains are epic 😘 Thank you for the reminder to be a better girl and the link too!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 14:16

      You’re welcome Ike!

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  10. Precious

    June 20, 2016 at 05:46

    I’m always drawn to everything that concerns the Proverbs 31 woman. I love the fact that she makes her own money. She is a darn good business woman. I also love the fact that her lamp does not go out at night. She knows how to stand in the face of adversity. In the end, the Bible describes her as a “woman that fears the Lord.” That’s the essence of her being. She fears God and draws her strength from Him.Such an inspiring read, Kachee!www.preciouscore.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 14:17

      She indeed fears God and I think that’s the ultimate lesson! Thanks a lot Precious.

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  11. Motunrayo Shafau

    June 20, 2016 at 07:41

    Oh Kachee… God bless you for this! Many times I feel like juggling all of this could be exhausting but I guess that only happens when I try to do so by my own effort. So even if I’m up before dawn, I’m so grouchy that any homeless person I see would be promptly ignored. But with God, all things are possible 😀 Thank you for this!

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 20, 2016 at 16:53

      Ultimately, it’s with God oh and not by our strength! Thank you for reading and for your comments always. I appreciate. Xx

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  12. Tamuno Tonye

    June 22, 2016 at 13:45

    She is perfection personified, we can only try.Love this post.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 22, 2016 at 16:50

      Thank you Tonye! We can indeed only try our best.

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  13. Amakamedia

    June 22, 2016 at 15:49

    LMHO! This kind of creative writing can only come from God. I loved every bit of it. I am BECOMING this woman.Keep writing, KacheeTee. 👍amakamedia.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 22, 2016 at 16:50

      Thank you Hun!! Loool. God help us!!

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  14. Sky

    June 22, 2016 at 16:15

    Great writing Kachi, as usual. I love it.This Proverbs woman has put us in too much trouble, because most people choose to take the bible almost too literally that they end up having too-high expectations of us ‘mere mortals’, especially when it comes to women and what we should be.The woman is very admirable, and should inspire us to do better and be better balanced women/individuals, but it ends there for me. It’s just a point of inspiration, because she is perfect in EVERY area of her life, like she is FLEEK personified and laawwd knows that i and a lot of other women are far from that, so.. *open hand emoji*You and Nedoux are definitely writing on an entirely different level, the creativity in the post alone is insane! i’m so happy i found y’all, i wanna be like you when i grow up, etc, etc.. #moist 😀 😀 :DSkyNotFancySNF Best 8 IG Accounts

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 23, 2016 at 10:35

      LOL @ us mere mortals. You’re entire comment is hilarious!!Thank you Thank you! But I refuse to be put on the same level as @nedoux:disqus. Goodness, her writing is not child’s play! Big Hug Sky!!

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  15. KIKELOMO OMOTALADE

    June 24, 2016 at 10:11

    You can make plancakes(pancakes with plaintain-blended/mashed). So there’s also a Proverbs 31 mother who prophesies/speak forths all of the things she hopes for her child.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      June 26, 2016 at 14:40

      This blog has missed you Kike!! Some actually suggested the ‘plancakes’!

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      • KIKELOMO OMOTALADE

        July 1, 2016 at 15:12

        I am trying to catch up……I have missed the blog too

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  16. demiolowo

    July 9, 2016 at 11:53

    I totally enjoyed reading this and I love your blog although this is my 1st time commenting… really really interesting read

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 11, 2016 at 16:12

      Thanks a lot Demi!!! 😘😘

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  17. Abby

    July 17, 2016 at 20:29

    This is such a honest and candid conversation to have with ones self to help with introspection! Love it and I’m going to do a version of this. Will tag you when I get around to doing it. Oh and fried over riped plantain is awesome!! With egg 😀 😀

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      July 19, 2016 at 09:25

      Thank you Abby! Please tag me. I’ll love to see how that goes!! But the plantain is too soggy to be fried now. It absorbs too much oil.

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  18. DamiLoves

    August 1, 2016 at 19:38

    I love this conversation; it was rather encouraging. We women often look up to her as though her standards are unattainable, but life is a journey not a destination after all. Damiloves.com/Do Not Swallow it

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 8, 2016 at 09:43

      It is indeed a journey. Thank you Dami!

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  19. Cedar Adinfono

    August 6, 2016 at 02:19

    hahhaaha this is a really interesting converstion. thanks for sharing this. i have actually bookmarked this post for proper reading later since i’m quite sleepy now. love love loveeeee your blog

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 8, 2016 at 09:43

      Thank you Cedar! Really appreciate.

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  20. Tamie

    August 19, 2016 at 08:04

    Oh I laughed and was inspired by this! This is a beautiful conversation.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 19, 2016 at 08:46

      Thank you Tamie!!

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  21. GraysBibi

    November 3, 2016 at 15:45

    I can’t believe i just found your blog. I’ve been here for the past 2 hours reading and opening new tabs. Great work here Kachee! wow…

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      November 3, 2016 at 16:15

      Whoooop! Thank you GraysBibi! thank you! I really hope I see more of you!! 😬

      Reply

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