Many times, with a proposal, I’m often fascinated by the behind the scenes, especially when I see all those cute photos. Did the couple ever talk about the proposal? Was it a complete surprise or did the girl’s friends keep pestering her to get a manicure? Were the parents already aware of the proposal? How did he find her ring size? Did she keep sending him website links of pretty rings?Β 

So when I read proposal stories, I’m often looking out for these details. Too bad many of them don’t really tell us. So I’ve concluded that many girls just often have a good manicure, at every point in time (and in some cases, just pay extra attention to the ring finger. Yeah right!)

Recently my mum sent me a picture of my initial engagement ring. I’m kind of gutted that even though I was recently home, I forgot to pick it up. Why I changed engagement rings? Read this post.

I didn’t think I was going to get proposed to. And no, that’s not because I didn’t think anyone would want to spend his life with all this awesomeness that I am! I’m just overly practical, and if I’ve been with someone for long, I’ll definitely know were we stood.  So, I assumed that we’ll just wake up one morning and start fixing dates for the wedding and all what not. I didn’t really care for the proposal. But it happened!

And in my case, the behind the scene was that I knew about it before hand. Poor Tee cannot keep a secret. Β (So, I was surprised my 26th Birthday party was a successful surprise).Β Or maybe my detective moves were just too smooth. Essentially he had asked a friend for my ring size, and I stumbled on that chat! Hahahahaha. Interestingly, he had also sent me a direct message saying he wanted to propose. Hilarious. Let me explain. So a message comes into my phone saying via BBM messenger and it’s from Tee.

  • Him: I’m thinking of proposing
  • Me: Huh!
  • Him: (obviously realising that he had sent the message to the wrong person!) ‘Nothing I just wanted to propose some kind of business to my sister’
  • Me: Oh okay. 

I was totally not even thinking of a marriage proposal and it was the last thing that crossed my mind. Until I stumbled on the chat. What happened afterwards was kind of funny. We had a chat about it, and I thought ‘Well I don’t really want a long engagement and I’m not ready to get married soon, even though I know I’ll marry you! So maybe hold off on the proposal?”. He really didn’t listen to my very valid reasons and went ahead to arrange a surprise proposal! So even though I had an inkling that it may happen, I still didn’t know where or when and it turned out to be a decent surprise, of just the two of us! And no, I didn’t cry. No one really knew the details of the proposal – except his friend who just couldn’t believe that it was happening!.

So, let’s talk about the the scenes of marriage proposals! If you’re married, do you have any interesting behind the scene stories? If you’re not, what sort of proposal would you rather have, personal and intimate or a whole crowd of people snap-chatting the moment? Would you like your parents to be informed before hand that you’ll be getting proposed to? Do you even believe in proposals? How will you get him to know what ring you’ll like? 

Love,

Kachee… Xx

pS: Promise rings seemed to be a thing at some point. What do you think of them? i.e. not an engagement ring, but still I promise to propose to you later! Loool!


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  1. favour moyse

    August 5, 2016 at 13:47

    I don’t want any promise ring.. My proposal should be intimate no crowd abeg…. And the nails? Well.. The thing is to have a manicure anytime I have to see bae… 13 ways to surprise your husband without spending a dime Β 

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 8, 2016 at 08:31

      Hahaha! Well I guess you have the nails all figured out. Yep I’m with you. Not so sure I get the idea of a promise ring.

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  2. BagosMutendiBlog

    August 5, 2016 at 14:06

    My dear…To think that I was arguing with someone in class that you were not into men!!! Who knew you had a boyfriend then not to talk of getting married! Kacheeeee!!!! I would want my folks informed first and then a private dinner sorta thing. All these Snapchating business take away the moments, you know…

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 5, 2016 at 14:09

      Lmfao! I wasn’t into them oh! Loooool. I don’t even know how this happened! Loool. I think I’m more of a private person as well. But sometimes paparazzi seems cool – Not necessarily snap chatters oh!

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      • BagosMutendiBlog

        August 10, 2016 at 08:18

        Hahahahaaha

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  3. Nengi

    August 5, 2016 at 18:01

    In my case we knew we were getting married. I figured there would be a proposal at some point but I didn’t know when. We went together to get sized, the proposal came a two months later, lol! He got my sis in law to help with the ring. It was simple, just the two of us. We were on holiday in Paris, I entered the room and he was on one knee. We joked about it later on. I told him now there would be no story to tell, he said he couldn’t predict my reaction so he ruled out a public proposal! Unfortunately, there were no manicured fingers to do the ring pics, haha!

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  4. pagesbyike

    August 6, 2016 at 05:01

    Uhh! My proposal was dramatic. I got proposed to on an air field in the middle of nowhere. My husband, then boyfriend was trying to get my parents’ consent to go ahead with it but they were unreachable for the entire week. I was confused for the entire duration and I cried! Also very few people knew about the proposal, and I was pleased with that.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 8, 2016 at 08:36

      Hahahahaah! I feel like I need to hear the full story of this!

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  5. Kachee || KacheeTee.com

    August 8, 2016 at 08:38

    Loool @ couldn’t predict your reaction. I’m sure he knew you’d say Yes anyway! I had no manicured nails as well, and didn’t put up any pictures. Lol.Have a great week Nengi!

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  6. Omowumi Oguntuase

    August 8, 2016 at 10:32

    I don’t want promise ring ooooo, I want the real thing at the right time but in my head I know I might never be quite ready for it so he would just have to surprise me. I might cry (partly because I would be wondering why someone would want to marry the bunch of crazy that is me LOL) but I think I’d want my parents and a few close friends to know about it, all part of the fun I guess. My nails always look terrible so it would be better if I have someone to tell me abeg.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 9, 2016 at 11:56

      Just be sure to let your friends know to hint you for that manicure session. And yeah, I think having your friends and parents know sort of adds to the fun!

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  7. Toluwalade Toyin-Kehinde

    August 8, 2016 at 14:25

    Being someone that loves things lol, I don’t want no promise ring mbok… Gotta propose with my diamonds!! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ .A private proposal is real cute but I think i’ld love close friends to be present because I’m sure my girls and I would love a scream or two. And well, I’m not much of a cry person so I think I’ll end up laughing my ass out (cause he’s now stuck with me forever lmao… OK jokes) like I did when I won the beauty pageant at my previous school. Oh well, until then.www.toyinwithfashion.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 8, 2016 at 14:27

      You won a beauty pageant and you laughed!!!? Why you such a clown like this?? I think I might be feeling you on the girls being present. A little drama doesn’t hurt any body! Lol.

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  8. Funke olotu

    August 8, 2016 at 22:02

    I love this post and being a sister with chubby fingers sometimes i just ‘imagine’ future bae proposing and it does not fit πŸ˜”πŸ˜­.I don’t know if I’ll prefer it private or public but am sure that I would want my parents to be informed before the main thinghttps://funkeolotu.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 9, 2016 at 11:55

      Hhahahaha. Have no fears Sis. He will do some background checks and get your ring size!

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  9. sandra

    August 9, 2016 at 11:52

    Great post Kachee. I think women always have an inkling when it’s coming, but then on social media some girl had a fainting attack and I did not understand… For me, if it happens I’d like something private: us alone or with close friends, but it’s his moment too so whatever. And they shouldn’t post it up immediately! Gimme time to process y’know? My friends got me on the ring I’m sure. If he knows me, he’ll know to ask them cos my tastes are unusual.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 9, 2016 at 12:08

      Loool @ fainting! maybe it just overwhelmed them. Actually you have a point that it’s his moment too. And on that not posting it up immediately, my friend actually didn’t tell anyone of her engagement for one year because she wanted to enjoy it privately and not feel pressured. Lol!

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  10. Sky

    August 9, 2016 at 17:33

    hmnn anyone who knows me at all, let alone thinking of marrying me, will know NEVER to try ANY PUBLIC PROPOSAL ANYTHING, because i am most likely to laugh awkwardly and immediately start asking a million questions starting with why you think we should marry? do you mean marry now now or in a few months or when..? i don’t know, i’ll definitely be awkward, so private party for two please.As for the ring, i don’t know how he’ll get it other than me telling him, because i don’t really wear jewelry, so no rings available for reference. (speaking of which, I DO NOT KNOW MY RING SIZE TILL DATE! do you know how old i am? does this mean i am not yet serious about ‘man’? is this why God has not given me bae yet? *pseudo-pensive*)You write such pleasurable things..SNF Taking Stock 07

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 10, 2016 at 08:37

      Pretty sure I replied this on the train yesterday. Lol! Maybe the network was bad. Was just telling you not to worry, that I don’t think people actually know their ring size. I didn’t even think rings had sizes. So fear not, you’re good!And thank you for that last line! I really appreciate.

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  11. Abby

    August 10, 2016 at 19:24

    On this proposal thing I can never understand how babes end up crying and are so surprised and all the extreme screams, tears and all, Like have you both not been talking about it? planning your future? all that jazz, why so surprised? Looool.I think I’ll want an intimate proposal preferably somewhere that holds history for both of us. (since I have to get the ring anyways abi?)

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 19, 2016 at 08:36

      I don’t get the surprise as well, but I guess maybe they are surprised at the way the proposal happened. Somewhere that holds history is always a good one! I sort of wanted our proposal / pre-wedding shoot to be back in UI where we met, but that didn’t happen, sadly.

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  12. Bababi

    August 13, 2016 at 08:00

    Lol. Did you just confess to snooping into his phone messages? πŸ˜‚.I got proposed to and it was a total surprise , surprisingly. In my family, I’m the detective. Nothing gets past my 6th sense. But I guess Mr husband knew soft spot. I have this friend turned sister I love so much. Mention her name to me and I’m ready to do anything for her.So I had this very precious fashion ring I always wore. So adorable I didn’t think I would ever throw it away despite the growing rust on the metal. Then this my friend came one day to visit and said “Munwa I love this your ring, I’ve always loved it but wouldn’t dream of asking you for it cos I know how much you love it” . Then I said “oh you want it? You should have said since”….and I gave it to her….and that was how he got my ring size.Now my friends (a bulk of us….probably about 20 of us) and I had this tradition of visiting an orphanage of choice during the Christmas holiday. He planned to do it there but his guts failed πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Looking at all the faces of the children and the other visitors and the funny looking father Christmas we hired, he just couldn’t. Meanwhile, friends were expecting him to pop the question cos they already knew his plan. So we left the party and went to watch a ManU match at one of his friend’s place. He proposed there where there was a smaller audience.I said yes because I absolutely loved him and still do but explained to him how I hadn’t planned on getting married just yet. So we went on to have a long engagement – 4 years- and now we’re happily married. THE END.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 19, 2016 at 08:39

      Munwa! Why you trying to be smart? Loool.Awww! Using the fashion ring is a classic. This is so similar to mine re not planning to get married just yet. I guess we had an even shorter engagement: 2011 – 2014. So not too bad!ps: Loved your wedding photos. Your individuality shone through.

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  13. Tamie

    August 19, 2016 at 08:25

    I I want a private proposal. The small the merrier biko. And I it’s Just two of us- perfect.Don’t know my ring size too. Don’t even know till recently that there were actual ring sizes. I don’t really do all them nail business. So manicure will wait till wedding day I guess.

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      August 19, 2016 at 08:42

      You’re not alone. I didn’t know there was such thing as a ring size as well. As for manicure, I was never into it. Gosh I have a hilarious story of the manicure for my wedding day. Have a great weekend and thanks for all the comments!

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  14. CherishExpress

    August 24, 2016 at 23:47

    From experience I’ve learnt that the surprise marriage proposal you see is usually an act of a well choreographed act, simply done to join in the bandwagon of “I didn’t know he will propose, I never hesperrerit”. Well, it could still be a shock though even after knowing beforehand. I mean, the man and woman could go to the jewelry store together to get the ring, she could go to the salon to get a good hairdo and also call some family member to prepare some delicacies for the ‘surprise engagement’ and still be surprised by the engagement!CherishExpress

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      September 16, 2016 at 22:35

      Hahahahaha. Not sure why I’m just seeing this comment! You are a clown. Loooool @ come back to prepare some delicacies and still be surprised. Hope you’re fine!

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  15. Oluwatoceen!

    September 16, 2016 at 01:55

    With my personality, future husband will propose ni and has to be with my intimate friends. My nails would most likely be fixed because I would’ve seen it coming and I like fixing nails normally. All this rock this rock that that ladies scream about, I dnt understand. I just know I have never seen an ugly engagement ring.Biko what is promise ring to promise to marry you… Jokes. He is joking.Great post as alwaysthatinternist.wordpress.com

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    • Kachee || KacheeTee.com

      September 16, 2016 at 22:37

      As in. Like you, I’ve never seen an ugly ring, and I don’t think I can even tell a ring diamond from fake. Promise ring is a joke sha. lol!Thank YOU for reading! Xx

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  16. @ilola

    October 12, 2016 at 16:07

    I wanted a proposal o, wedding plans or not, lol. My mum knew about my proposal, and I was completely caught off guard.Journey to Marriage 11 – Highs and Lows of courtship

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